[EvilEvilKitten]

Forget "blame" altogether. That's a loser scenario.

Why are you permitting this fool to walk all over you like this?

You are here in wailing about lingerie, heels, his ideas, and his wants, wearing make-up yadda yadda yadda but NOWHERE have you gotten up on your back legs and DEMANDED your due from him.

Why are you being such a doormat?

YOU have permitted this man to become a domestic and sexual tyrant by keeping your mouth shut and your anger inwardly focused upon yourself. Time for you to begin talking, asking, and not settling for BS flippant answers.

Put on 3 inch heels, no higher, and get yourself a rolled up newspaper. Demand oral with him kneeling before you and if he does it wrong - whack him upside the head with the newspaper. Tap, tap, tap. Then say "Good man!" kiss the top of his head and walk away again without doing anything for him.

BTW your guy knows NOTHING about D/s or BDSM. dlb is a dom and I am a dominatrix - we would know. What your man told you was pure BS. It is the SUB who has ultimate power within such a relationship - because at a word from the sub - ALL PLAY IMMEDIATELY STOPS.

If he's taking his cues fromm porn then he's doubly a fool - porn is NOT real. It is hyped up mostly male fantasy.