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well, i think that between the two of us, there is a definite something...
we dated over twenty years ago. when we broke up, it wasmore about what my parents wanted than what i wanted and we saw eachother infrequently over the remaining years. i got married, got divorced (six years) then lived with a lover (ten years) and left that lover. then i ran into this guy againat my favorite danceclub. he said to me, "i waited 20 years to marry you, you know.".
we get along so well together outside of the sex, really. he is more than attentive outside of the bedroom. and he seems blissfully unaware that i am seething with sexual fury at his lack of foreplay. in fact, he told me the opther day how he was such a great lover because he read so many books on pleasing women! i said nothing...because i didn't want to hurt his feelings (and his hand was on my thigh...if i hurt his feelings he 'can't' have sex...i have never understoof what emotions and sex have to do with eachother! i can have perfectly agreeable 'grudgesex' when i am angry with my lover!).
i think perhaps i am not articulate enough to voice my disappointment with him...or maybe i am too tactful.
either way, a confession of dissatisfaction resulted in an entire week of no sex for me (the horror of it all!).
the porns, well, i like a good porno as much as the next girl, and the more disgusting the better! (i'm a little aberrant)...my unhappiness stems from the fact that he seems to collect it, rather than use it. much in the way he has those comic books all framed on the wall for people to admire, but would faint if someone actually opened one and turned the page.
the friends are mutual friends and they usually express shock at our choice of porn.
i think he likes the shock value...
i would never ever say that i am a mature, responsible and altogetherpsychologically healthy individual (my upbringing ensured i would be a dysfunctional and twisted little soul...). but i would love to light a fire under boyfriend's particularly beautiful behind in order to get a little extra foreplay.
now granted i won't tattoo 'eat me' on my forehead, but perhaps if i wrote it in lipstick or eyeliner...
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