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Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating. Please begin by familiarizing yourself with the FAQs, the Posting Guidelines section, and especially the Index, all found at the top of the main screen. The Index contains links to many informative insightful and some how-to articles.
Making love and having sex is not what we do to each other; rather, it is what we do with an for each other in partnership. He needs to learn this and to understand that men and women view romance differently. He should also read the articles in the Index. The two of you can do this separately or together, and then discuss what you have learned.
First, etiquette dictates that a guy should help you have an orgasm first and last. In between the two of you can enjoy more after your respective recovery times. For you this may only be moments; for him--ten to thirty minutes.
Second, few sexual positions place your pieces-parts in close contact with his sufficient to generate the required friction required to build your arousal to the brink and then beyond. What a knowledgeable skilled, caring lover will do is to reach around and finger his partner's clitoris while stroking away.
Third, nobody is a mind reader, so some feedback is required in order to know how our partner is responding to our kisses and caresses. A woman's orgasm is much more internalized that a man's so a guy is left wondering did she or didn't she. He may think he is doing everything right yet by not communicating with him, he is left to ask the age old question: "did you cum, yet???" Help the dude out by offering him a "sigh", a "wow" or "WOW", an enthusiastic hug and a kiss, etc. If you do not want to say anything then work out some body English that lets him know that you climaxed--or not.
If not, it is important for both of you to understand that we do not give orgasms away. Each person is responsible for his/her own. All any of us can do is to help our partner achieve them. Teach him how you do it by taking his hand and moving it like you do your own hand over a few sessions until he learns to mimic your unique and specific movements. The same holds true for him with you.
If you are not reaching a climax, then this has a much to do with you as with him. Work together.
I hope this is of help. Got questions? If so, please do not hesitate to ask, although, read the many articles, first.
Explore and learn together. Please begin reading those articles today. Information is empowering!
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