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> My thing is, WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME!?
Nothing.
> Once I orgasm I'm done for the night. ugh... it sucks.
Nope, not at all. Most women can have many orgasms during a session. Guys on the other hand are limited to perhaps a maximum of three depending upon age, drive, and "wiring". That said, then why can't the two of you continue to make love?
Nothing but perhaps time constraints. There is nothing in the rule book about--
* having to have an orgasm
* having only one
* stopping (unnecessarily) and not continuing
Having an orgasm is nice, great when it happens, yet is not a physiological necessity for a woman as it is for a man. How many can you have? That depends, although certainly most of the time more than one or two.
Guys on the other hand have a longer recovery time being anywhere from several minutes for a young post pubescent teen to maybe as much as half an hour for older individuals. In the meantime, what is preventing the two of you from continuing to make out, kiss, cuddle, and continuing to keep each other aroused until he is good to go, again??
The two of you can work on this while at the same time rebuilding your arousal in order to enjoy a second, third or more orgasms if it is your desire. In the meantime learn how long his refractory or recovery time is and when this amount of time has past work on having him enjoy another orgasm.
Numbers have been discussed and it has been thought that a woman can enjoy perhaps as many as a dozen or so orgasms in a row. Men are limited to three or maybe four. Certainly these quantities make it possible to continue love making sessions for an hour or two or longer. It just requires familiarity with each others capabilities.
The two of you can work together to help you enjoy two or more orgasms in quick succession, or to spread them out and pace one or more to coincide closely with another one of his.
Are you done for the night? Not necessarily and only when you and he have had enough.
Etiquette recommends that the man helps his partner have an orgasm first and last. In between, he can have his and more of yours during intercourse or form Foreplay. Whatever works for the two of you in the moment.
> I feel so bad b/c I'm finished while he has to rush and get off.
I figured it was the fact that it felt SOO good with him.
A guy does not necessarily have to rush, although, his hormones may be driving him to. Learning control and managing love making steps is helpful for a guy to learn.
I recommend that the two of you separately or together read the many articles listed in
the Index. It contains links to many helpful informative insightful and how-to articles.
There is nothing wrong with either of you that more information, knowledge, and some learned skills will not help. Goforit!
I hope this is of help. Got questions?