In regard to #1.) above: If you believe you are using a lot of lubrication--add a lot more!
Many times, fingering is all a person is interested in; however, if you want to play with a dildo or toy in addition, it should always follow a finger--and be well lubricated.
When planning to insert a finger, tease the outside of the anus, first, and then over time, gently apply pressure, moving ever so slowly inward. If fingering the anus and sphincters is all you are interested in then you need go no further than the first or second knuckle. Anal play can be done separately or in combination with stroking. A finger can tease the outside of the anus, and, later if desired, go inside as noted. If your wish is to remain outside, then you can bring much pleasure by just touching, grazing, tapping, and otherwise just fingering the outside surface. An anus is richly endowed with lots of sensitive nerve endings that react pleasurably when touched. Going inside increases the intensity by an order of magnitude; just stroke, wiggle and wobble your finger in the passageway alongside the sphincter muscles. (See #5, above.)
If you are going to massage your prostate, then slip further inside and feel for the bulge along the anterior {front) wall. You will know when you you've contacted the prostate. Do not be surprised if rubbing and massaging the area cause you to moan, groan, do pelvic lifts, and/or to just squirm around. You will undoubtedly find that the massage will intensify what you are feeling from stroking by several orders of magnitude! As above, a difficult to trigger orgasm from just stroking will happen more quickly and easily.
DILDOS--
or toys can take many forms. Here are some suggestions of suitable household items:
* long necked bottle
* candle stick
* carrot stick
* English cucumber
* round tool handle
Clean before and after use. Food items should be discarded after use.
FANTASIES--
Fantasizing while masturbating can be a dynamic duo blockbuster combination. Do you wonder if you are normal to let your imagination run wild while stroking away? Fear not, my guess is that 99% of us do it and the other 1% lie.
Fantasizing is generally harmless and not dangerous unless some extreme mental image or plot that is conjured up is acted out; otherwise, a fantasy script is just that--fantasy. It is perfectly acceptable to let your imagination run wild, to include men, women, or both doing whatever activities suit your fancy. You can develop a script that is repeated over and over, or, you can develop several scripts and play them randomly in your head. Fantasies help make masturbating more pleasurable, can help us focus on what we are doing, the sensations we feel, and, build our level of arousal more quickly. These mental scripts are private, there is no reason to share what goes on in our head with others.
Fantasies are a figment of the imagination. You can dream up anything, do anything, without fear that by doing something in the privacy of your own mind is going to make you Gay if you are not, Heterosexual if you are not, Bi- or whatever.
BENEFITS OF MASTURBATING FOR BOY AND FOR GIRLS--
What are the effects of masturbation happening everyday for a few years including cumming?
Isn't cumming the point?
"For both
boys and
girls, learning to masturbate to climax helps establish the connections between the millions of sensitive nerve endings in the skin and the pleasure center in the brain. It is a natural part of our maturation. Mother Nature gives us the pleasure center in the brain, the nerve endings, and, the autonomic nervous system that transmits the signals back and forth, yet through some twist of evolution the connects are not established. Practice is how this is accomplished. Boys do this rather matter-of-factly right out of puberty while girls often begin later, if at all.
So, the main reason a girl should learn to masturbate is to transmute from a pre-orgasmic entity into an orgasmic being. It is a learned experience. It is also a conscious decision and effort. For boys, learning is pretty much an automatic activity from the beginning, and a driving force often willing us from then on. For girls, while orgasms are enjoyable, they are not the necessity they are for boys.
Other benefits to masturbating to climax are:
a)
stress relief
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sexual
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emotional
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physical
b)
as an aid to falling asleep
c)
relieving menstrual cramps
d)
strengthens the body's immune system and helps
build resistance to common infections
e)
stimulates the body to release mood elevating endorphins
f)
reduces yeast infections
g)
strengthens the pelvic muscles
h)
masturbation provides an excellent cardiovascular workout!
i)
increases sexual self awareness
...and in a follow-up to the original post, noting that
masturbation is also "FUN"!
CAN I INCREASE MY SIZE BY MASTURBATING--
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Originally Posted by Jared
Is it true that if you masturbate alot, that your dick gets longer??
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The long and the short of this is "
no".
The size of your endowment is predicated upon ethnicity and genetics. You will stop growing by age nineteen or before.
The length and circumference of an erect penis will change a little based upon a person's level of arousal.
The size of a flaccid penis will change a lot based upon level of arousal and temperature; however, some flaccid penises do not shrink much from their erect size. Others shrink down considerably and might become as tiny as 1/2" at times when cold and wet such as when exiting a swimming pool, lake, etc.
What is interesting is that when a man is with his partner and there is an emotional connection between them he will generally become much more highly aroused than when home alone taking matters into his own hand. It is not at all uncommon for his penis to feel like it cannot expand any more and is about to burst. Does it become larger? Probably not, although, it will become more engorged with blood giving a person this sensation.
Enjoy!
-Doc