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Both really good points. Thanks EEK and Doc. But what if we already know what we're sort of looking for? I'm a 21 year old guy, and I've had a few "serious" relationships. I never really dated around, but I always had a lot of female friends. Most of my friends were, as a matter of fact. I've always been pretty self aware, and generally pretty conscious of what it is I like and don't like. I'm pretty stubborn as far as my moral principles go, etc. I feel that if some people my age (maybe even slightly younger) already know what it is they want from a relationship and are prepared to handle the emotional stress that can come from it, they may find an exclusive relationship to be more fulfilling. At least I did. That's just my side of it though.
Also, another point, if I may. My parents say the same thing about dating around. They insist it's the best thing to do, but in my generation (or at least with the people I've always enjoying being with), there seems to be an unspoken consensus about dating around. All the people I've spoken to about this seem to feel that it's immoral to do so, even if the other party knows about it. I gotta say, I'm inclined to agree with them. For some reason, and I don't really know why, it just doesn't seem right to date more than one person at a time.
One reason for this, I think, is a difference in definitions. My parents refer to "dating" as just going out to dinner with other female friends. People my age refer to "dating", as my parents would say, "going steady". I think that may be part of where the confusion lies, perhaps.
But, if both of your definitions are closer to the "going steady" version of dating, then I'm pretty certain I disagree with doing that with several women at one time. It just seems to me that I get more out of exclusive, close relationships. On the other hand, I've never dated around, so I can't really knock it, but at the same time, I still have dinners etc. with my female friends.
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