> Firstly, I am 17 years of age, and my girlfriend is 18.
Hi, and thank you for your post. It is always nice to get questions from a young person who genuinely wants to learn more in order to be better.
> My girlfriend has had sex before, she said that it was akward for her because her past boyfriends made their relationship all about sex and not being happy.
Now, having said that, I also wish I could work with those oafs your girlfriend dated previously so that future girlfriends would not have the same complaints. Of course these sex sessions were all about sex, they were just using her to get their proverbial rocks off and nothing more--or, if they were really trying, they sorely went about it blindly.
> She also said that she has a difficult time having an orgasm, unless the clitoris is directly stimulated. Her past boyfriends have attempted to stimulate her g-spot, with no luck.
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> I personally am a virgin, and sex is a really big step for me. It's not like I'm going to have sex with her tomorrow, because that's not why I'm with her.
Step One-
Please look at
the Index found at the top of the main screen and read all of the articles. These articles are informative and several present how-to information.
Please do not let your lack of experience bother or worry you.
HELP! S/He is more EXPERIENCED! To which I say:
> So, the reason I'm posting, is that I would like any tips for helping her have an orgasm. I have read a lot about the clitoris and g-spot. I just want to make sure that I have the best chances possible to make her happy when the time comes.
Step Two-
Begin by addressing her emotionally. Satisfying a woman's emotional needs will go a long way toward satisfying her romantically, and then sexually. (1..2..3) This mean anytime, all the time; and, especially when you get an idea to get it on, later in the day.
> Btw, your site is increadible. We have tryed all the kisses and some other things that you guys have on your site.
Thank you for the positive feedback. One of purposes of this site is to make it easier for those coming up through the ranks than it was for us.
> I thank you for any information provided. And thank you in advanced!
** In her favor is the fact that she has learned to masturbate and can enjoy orgasms. This is important because a lot of people believe that they are given--not so. All any of us can hope for is that we help our partner achieve them.
INTERCOURSE / ORGASMS / and the gentle art of Humping(plus the G-spot and Making Out)
Step Three-
When it does come time to fool around and make out, and you have previously addressed her emotional needs, take your time. Do not be in a rush to achieve those orgasms. Devote no less than half an hour (and more time permitting) to kissing and caressing. Use this time to adequately arouse each other. Guys can be ready for sex and an orgasm at the mere thought; women on the other hand require much preparation. This begins by satisfying them emotionally long before doing so physically. When it comes time for the physical, do so in progressive stages: "Necking", "Petting", and, "Heavy Petting", before moving on to "Foreplay" and eventually "Intercourse!"
Please read Chapter Three in the series.
Step Four-
For Men and Women Only- Breasts and Play
Please read "The Program" and "Body Worship" by EvilEvilKitten (EEK).
Too Sensitive: Suggestions for touching and pleasuring the Clitoris
Please do not make the G-spot an immediate goal. You will find a couple of articles that discuss this very important aspect of love making; however, I believe it is much more important early on to develop other skills.
I hope this is of help. Whether the two of you read the articles in the Index, separately or together, please discuss the information and then begin incorporating the information into what you are doing.
Got questions?