> i definitely have to show this post to my wife thank you.
Here is some additional information for you two:
> Its hard for her to reach an orgasm i have given her one before vaginally the second time she had to use a vibrator so yeah. i do know her emotion towards sex is frustration most of the time because she is always thinking about how she never gets a orgasm.
In addition to all that has been said, above, please understand that every woman must learn by themselves to masturbate and to make the connections between the nerves in the skin and the pleasure center in the brain. We do not give orgasms away, each person is responsible for his/her own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve them.
Therefore, encourage her to masturbate, learning what is required, and then be able to do it reliably and consistently. Once she can do this, she can then show you by taking your fingers and moving them in ways she knows will bring her to the brink of a climax and beyond. Feedback is also extremely important. Both of you need to let each other know how your are responding to caresses and for what you need now/next.
> i try everything to spice up the mood. if she gets close to a climax but looses it she becomes frustrated and will either tell me to stop or she will become dry and yea you can see what comes next. now im not one of those guys who is selfish i do want to please her ,
Please look at the Index found at the top of the main screen and read the articles listed in it. Here are some important links to relevant articles:
The Anatomy of the Female "O", Answered by Brandye & Dancingdoc2 & Inspired by Godiva
For Women Only- Help! Why Can't He Make Me Orgasm?
How Do I Get Him/Her to Orgasm From a Hand/Blow Job?
What to do when the Clitoris becomes too sensitive, by Dancingdoc2, Brandye, and, others
Too Sensitive: Suggestions for touching and pleasuring the Clitoris--Answered by Brandye and Dancingdoc2
Body Worship How-To by EEK
> its a turn on to please her but she thinks im just a selfish guy because she tells me im the only one that gets to climax ill show her this article in hopes she can give these tips a try
It is important for her to know and understand that the missing link to all this is the lack of information. She should stop assigning blame and the two of you need to acquire some knowledge. This is the purpose of this site and why all these articles and others were written. Help yourself, and help each other. A relationship is a partnership as are the romance and sexual aspects. Explore and learn together and practice.
I agree with her that it is disappointing that so far you are the only one able to climax regularly. After reading these articles and doing some homework, this will likely change. Good etiquette recommends that you help her to have one or more orgasms before intercourse, one or more during intercourse, and one or more after, as are her wishes. Very few positions permit a woman to climax form stroking and thrusting alone. Most require that the man reach around and finger her clitoris while stroking. This is because her "pieces-parts" do not come into the required constant and ongoing contact required. This fact of life is also discussed in one of the articles listed in the Index.
Devote lots of time to making out before ever getting to the foreplay stage. Next, have a bottle of lube handy. If she begins to dry, use it! that's why these products were created. Do not be hesitant to lubricate the shaft and glans of your penis either.
In addition to the articles referenced, above, read those on making out.
I hope this is of help. Got questions?