Okay...yes I know I am 19, but many people consider my wise beyond my years. I just wanted to tell all the teens and such to never let someone else get in the way of your happines....or I should say never let someone BE YOUR HAPPINESS!
I spent the last year being friends with a girl who was my happiness. She was an ex who I considered a best friend and she had gone lesbian so I figured we were cool and it would make it easier to be just friends since she was gay so I had NO chance.
Then about 3 weeks ago I hit the lowest point ever our friendship had been ruined since she tried dating my cousin and then I tried to kill myself because I literally let her be my entire happiness and she was treatin me like shit which hurt a lot.
Then I learned just what kind of a friend she was. I tried to kill myself and rather than say no dont or try to help me she basically told me to go fuck myself that we were never close and she never wanted to see or talk to me again...
I totally fucked myself over with all the decisions I made. Every friend I had said dont talk to her leave her behind move on (like a year ago) I didnt listen.
Now that I have chosen to not bother trying to help my life has gotten better. I have been happy, hanging out with friends all the time, and my self confidence has soared. I recently started a new job and on the second day I was promoted to assistant manager. I made a ton of new friends whom I actually talk to and see...and I am on my way to moving out.
Plus on top of that I have started taking major risks in the dating field. I have met so many new girls in the last like 2 days just since I am feeling so good about myself. My body isnt the way I wish it would look, but I just feel so confident its amazing. And when I walk into a room rather than be shy I just command attention. I will talk to anyone and I just click with everyone. Yesterday I met a girl, we talked for a bit, and she started to flirt a bit with some little inuendos and rather than be shy and coy I just went with it and had myself a wonderful night, a wonderful christmas eve and after tomorrow a wonderful christmas
lol.
Oh and on top of that, I have discovered a lot of women find me attractive...always thought I was kinda on the below average but every girl I have talked to (or a friend talks to) winds up asking for my name or number because they think I am attractive. Even some who thought I was cute now think I am totally hot just cuz I am so upbeat now.
I guess its not really much in the advice department, but more of a lesson learned. Do not force a friendship with an ex, move on and if in a few months your meant to be friends than fine but until then move on.
And never think low of yourself. Hold yourself to a higher standard and you will notice so many things will just work out and come to you. Always stay positive and be happy....you cant go wrong!