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** Preparing the Hymen-

Hymens come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. Generally they are a crescent shaped membrane that partially obstructs the vaginal opening, although not always. Some have one or more openings in them. Some are thicker than others. A few are completely attached all around the opening.

I believe it is a good idea for a woman who is contemplating having intercourse for the first time to prepare by stretching both the hymen and the vaginal opening beforehand. Doing so will help make both more pliable.

To do this, partially fill a bathtub with warm water (Sitz bath) and sit in it while the water helps to relax the skin and you. Insert a finger against the hymen and tug in one direction, holding the pressure for a few moments. Repeat. This works well if their is a space between the membrane and the vaginal wall. If there is a large opening in the membrane, try doing this and then working your way around the circle.

Plan to repeat this exercise several times over the next few days. At some point you should be able to insert two fingers while tugging.
Do this same exercise with the vaginal opening. Begin with a single finger and after a few days as the opening relaxes, you should be able to insert two fingers. The fingers can be from each hand or a single hand, working in opposition.