[Brandye]

There is likely no abnormal way to masturbate. Among women loving women there is a tendency to treat your first time partner the way you do yourself. I have had this done to me - and many variations. Each one teaches me something I had never learned myself.

I share your dislike of visual porn and also your liking for spicy writing. Completely normal. Most vixual porn is made for men and their seeming liking for very explicit scenes. Women generally prefer subtlety and something left to the imagination.

Even your dislike of bad sex with your first partner is reported by many women. A few months after my first, I noted that he was having all the fun and I was left worrying about my period each month. I stopped. As did my best friend. And in the long break she and I discovered women can do as well for one another as using a man.

Try a good long talk with your present b/f and then a slow langorous session with lots of touching and rubbing and sucking. It will be a start.