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This is a common problem. There is little you can really do for him unless you are willing to really go out onto a limb WITH him.
1. He must learn NOT to make his parents' problem - his problem as well. So they divorced? BFD. Millions have and it hasn't ended the world.
2. NO ONE is perfect. Not going to happen. Ever. Not you. Not your gf/wife. No one. Get over it. Human imperfections are often our most glorious and endearing features.
3. He is fine AS HE IS. Stop the self-doubt. ALL of us go with what we've got - he can too. Takes all kinds - and he is one of those kinds.
4. Marriage does not automatically mean divorce and it doesn't have to if you marry the right person in the first place which you can ONLY do if you go with who you are from the start. No courting. No hiding. No pretences and no apologies. Just be YOU - as if naked before the world - and saying "dontcha love it?" LOL
YOU only live ONCE so you might as well GET ON WITH IT.
Take this guy out every Friday night to the local bar with the most people in it and PARTY - dance, sing, flirt, play stupid games - whatever. Gather up like-minded buddies and drag this guy along with you - by the scruff of his neck if you have to.
The next day - after the hangover's done - ask him if he's still living - if yes, then what is he afraid of? Not a damn thing - hey - he's still living right?
I recommend such heavy duty treatment about once a month until he 'gets it' and starts inviting you out!
Then we'll start on him having parties at his place!
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