Thank you for the replacement.

He does sound much nicer this time around.
All relationships take time and will balance out tis true. So long as no one's being taken advantage of or used, it is all good.

if you like this girl as much as you say, and she means enough for you to tell her, then she should respect you enough not to tell her friends or your friends.
to be honest, i'm not too sure how i would approach it, but you could go for something a bit cheesey but honest. try and make it sound like its almost a good thing - you haven't done the sleeping around/one night stand thing. you like her and the fact you care about her is making you a bit nervous about it all. if anything she'll see you're feeling vulnerable and only want to wrap you up and look after you more.
i'd been seeing my boyfriend for about 2 months before we slept together, but he's a bit older than me - 5/6 years - and i was nervous that it would all go wrong or that i'd be shown up, but he made it so easy for me. by being relaxed and not going anywhere fast, he made it all about me - i was totally spoilt (which i really really wasn't used to) and it wasn't just sex like it always had been with other partners for me, but it was all really caring and meaningful. i didn't find out til afterwards that he was really nervous and that he wasn't the stud rumours make him out to be. he didn't tell me of his fears and it was ok. you might not have to tell her until you feel better about it after.

kstate, you shouldn't tell her about your inexperience. It's nice to feel like you're being honest, but you'll have plenty of time to tell her about your past AFTER you get into a relationship with her. At that point, she won't care and realize you are way past that point anyway.

Do NOT tell her!!!

She will lose all respect for you if you do - and will see you as a Momma's oy or a lap dog - both of which result in an instant loss of credibility and masculinity in her eyes. Women want men - not little boys.

[QUOTE=EvilEvilKitten;159782]Do NOT tell her!!!

She will lose all respect for you if you do - and will see you as a Momma's oy or a lap dog - both of which result in an instant loss of credibility and masculinity in her eyes. Women want men - not little boys.[/QUOTE]

that is complete and utter bs.

I had only had 1 gf before meeting my current gf. and my ex we were only together for like 2 weeks. which was when i was like 13!

I am now 17. my gf new i wasn't experienced. She didn't care, she never lost respect. she would have lost respect if i had of said i was a real stud and was with like 10 girls etc etc when really i hadn't.

Tell her the truth and if she doesn't like it. give her the boot, she's not worth it.

Okay so you're basing this opinion on two girl friends?
Quite a representative sample you have there, guy.

my boyfriend would rather think of me as sweet and innocent than as a whore...but then its different for girls

Whores engage in sex for money - if no money changes hands, then she's NOT a whore. A slut perhaps, but NOT a whore. Please keep it straight.

And if he likes thinking of you as bring sweet and innocent does that mean he's a defiler of that innocence? He likes to e in control? Being "Daddy"? You should wonder a bit about exactly what motivates such perceptions.

I prefer men who enjoy aggressive alpha women - they seem to feel that if they can satisfy such women they must be like WOW. They are usually quite correct. *insert grin here*.

ok - i didn't phrase my words quite right there - my bad. move whore and replace with slut.

my boyfriend is 6 years older than me, but no he doesn't think of himself as "daddy"; he doesn't exert control over me and no he doesn't want to take my innocence. he is actually very gentle and loving. he was raised alone by his mum and so is really really protective of her (she is currently undergoing chemo for breast cancer and is one of the bravest, strongest people i know - i've never heard her complain or say she feels ill) and is very conscious of anyone working her too hard (she is a manager where we both work) or treating her badly, and he would do anything for her, and i think he transfers this (probably subconsciously) to me - he wants to almost to protect me from things i may not know about. having said that, i don't think its a bad thing, but what he doesn't realise is that i'm not as innocent as perhaps i appear (i'm quite well spoken and blush easily so i look quite innocent) but i like to think someone is looking out for me.
bizarrely before this boyfriend i have always been quite smutty and shameless, but i've changed - i've realised that relationships can be committed (without being trapped and tied down) and they aren't all about sex, but that scares me because i'm not very confident or cock sure about the whole relationship/loving/caring thing which i guess makes me appear more innocent and my bloke is quite is quite careful not to scare me with the whole commitment thing - as i grow more confident in us our relationship will balance out. naturally i'm very flirtatious and go for the chase quite strongly and am quite dominant, but as i get further into the committed thing i back off quickly - which hopefully will change. but not everyone is perfect.
sorry i've rambled on a bit, but i don't think that our relationship is unhealthily unbalanced.

i agree with Vper. but still it depends on what kind of relationship youre looking for with her.
If youre serious about her, and want your relationship to be more than just sex, then she'll have to feel the same way. and if she does, then you telling her about your being inexperienced shouldnt change a thing. (some girls prefer that the guy hasnt been with too many girls before her) she should like you for who you are and not how experienced you are, and theres always time to get that experience with her.
but if youre just looking for fun with her, or if she's not really into committment or anything, then your experience or lack of it may mean something to her. you can probably tell what she looks for in a guy in the course of your getting to know each other. if she wants a man who's experienced to give her a good time, she's probably not for you. you could keep the truth away from her, and she'll think youre experienced enough for her, and when you get down to it she'll probably find out the truth anyway. and that wont be very nice.
so i guess what it boils down to is you could take your time and decide when to tell her, but you gotta tell her sometime, or she'll know anyway.

It really just depends on your situation as the above post said.

I would recommend maybe holding off for a little bit, finding out what kind of a relationship you guys are really in. If it's serious go for it and tell her that your inexperienced. If she's somewhat inexperienced then your fine because you both are, if she's been around the block a few times you'll just have to break the ice in a way that sounds funny at first but then let her know that your serious about it. I don't think you'll have a big problem with your friends though I could be wrong, even if they knew I think they would just tease you about it but if you were to just "get" with her in the first place then she tells them your inexperienced so what? You had sex with her, so your friends won't have anything to talk about. Thats just what I think.

Also I disagree with the whole women thinking that guys who don't have as much experience are bad. Granted they may be worse in bed, but personally I prefer that my girl friends be as inexperienced as possible, at least then I know they're probably clean and less "worn".

That's my two cents.

"less worn" ? - I hope your girlfriends aren't of a similar mindset about you, friend.

:) i like to think that he is quite nice...and that eventually i will sort my kinks out :)

Hmm, "less worn", that's a strange way of looking at it. As if having sex can wear someone out, like the tyres on a car! Personally, I think you should be grateful if your girlfriend is experienced, you might just learn something!