[Brandye]

Your orgasm is your issue; hers is hers. Only about one-quarter of all women experience orgasm from penetration and thrusting. About a quarter never, or rarely, have orgasms. That leaves half of us who require additional stimulation. Some, a little; some a lot of very specific kinds. I commend you for your concern and interest in making this "better" for her. The fact is that if she does not want to improve it there is nothing you can do except frustrate yourself.

She can begin by visiting a gyn who is actually interested in the patients'' sexual satisfaction. No all are, regrettably. It could be a purely physical issue that can be fixed. If not, most decent gyn's can refer to sex therapists who deal with these issues regularly. There are more women who will choose to "live with it" than who will seek change.