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Originally Posted by kole45
I am at a total loss and need some advice. My wife and I have what I would consider a good sex life (almost every day). I shouldn't be complaining about it but she has me so frustrated I'm ready to give up. It is rare for her for her to have an orgasim. Not just from sex but from oral and anything else I'll try.
Please look at the top of the main screen for the "Begin Here" Index, click on the link, then look over the many helpful how-to articles listed. There are a couple that address this very topic.
I know she masterbates so she is capable of having orgasims but she doesn't pass any information along to me. I don't believe it is to much to ask for a little guidance from her.
This is exactly what needs to happen and this is explained in the article on h/j and b/js. I recommend that you read it and then either read it together or encourage her to read it. She must understand each person is responsible for his/her own orgasm and that all any of us can do is to help them achieve theirs. Once she understands the importance of her part in this partnership if she refuses to do her part, consider that she may not be mature enough or at the very least, shy.
I have asked for help, tried to incorporate vibrators during sex and oral, tried to get her to guide my hand or just flat out show me what to do.
Good try, while a vibrator creates strong sensations they are often of the wrong type to bring about a climax. This too is explained in one or more of the articles.
All I want to do is please my wife and am willing to do anything she needs to do this.
Great, now is she willing? If not then try to enlighten her. If this doesn't work, you may just have to wait for her to become more comfortable with herself and the relationship.
I have never had this kind of problem before with other women so I'm not sure what to think. Am I somehow being selfish in thinking she should help me.........should I just be happy with all the sex I get...........
Asked and answered.
or am I just in thinking part of the enjoyment of sex is being able to see the other person experience an orgasim and the feeling of satisfaction you get with that.
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You are not wrong, yet please understand that not all women climax, and, a climax is not always necessary. There is an article by Brandye specifically on this as well as a couple of others that discuss female orgasms in general.
I hope this is of help. After reading the articles, if you have additional questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to ask.