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> Babyk1zz3r: I can't help it... Im more horny than him...

Baby - you need to learn Management as well as Communication.

Study up so you know when he's about to have his orgasm, then learn to stop it. Most men have a 'second gear' when moving to attain orgasm - watch for this and then move to slow him down back into 'first gear' to prolong the sexual interlude.

Of course you will have discussed this him before you do it. Talk about sex. Explore him and have him explore you. Please see the sticky posts entitled The Program and the one entitled Body Worship. They both give you an idea of how to FULLY satisfy each other.

> lil_crick25: Our first time
he knows i want to go to the next level, and he says hes ready too, but he never takes it to the next level and we have had plenty of private times to do so. should i wait for him to make the move or take things into my own hands?

Birth control, condoms, lubricant and then - TAKE HIM! Jeez! Stop being shy and go get what you want.

> bkwrmz7 Sexually starved & neglected

And if, in a reaction to being sexually teased, she took him down in a flying tackle, I'm sure he'd...ahem...comply with her desires.

The problem, of course, is that most women, for one reason or another, think unleashing their sexuality makes them "less" of a person. "He won't respect me." "He'll think I'm a slut." = whatever.

Ladies the truth is if you blow his doors off - he'll be impressed. But, if you rip his doors of their hinges..now there! He'll respect you until the day he dies. So unleash your desires and overwhelm the man repeatedly. You CAN do it.


> Normenbatez: Getting Her ready for Sex

OMG - you really DON'T have a clue!
You're rushing the process something dreadfully!!

Delay, wait, caress, until SHE'S jumping YOUR bones and NOT the other way around.


> Sexually starved & neglected

...Any woman interested in "getting some" has only to 'show up'.


> Im A Big Boy: cant last long/sensitivity

WEAR A CONDOM

problem solved


> PleasureMAX101: my question is how many position switches is to many during a 45 minute sex session?

pleasure Max - just forget "positions" and go with whatever is at hand. All you really have to do is to pay attention to your partner.


> BeachBoy: Avoiding the "Friend Zone"
Ok so I have had a few friendships in the past that I have tried to move onto an actual relationship. Every time I have been met with the same reaction. "I dont see you in that way." "Your like my brother." "I dont want to risk our friendship."

Pay attention and learn how to tell when a woman is interested in dating you - such as mirroring your body language, leaning toward you when speaking with you, touching you when she talks, and so on. If she's not physically showing such signs of interest - don't "go there".

BTW just because she calls you friend - doesn't mean she'll be happy to set to you up. Some females compete socially, which is wrong but just warning you, and will either set you up with those who make you go eeeeeeek! or wouldn't have you on a bet.

So, a successful hunt begins with proper prior planning. What kind of lady are you seeking and where is such a lady likely to be found? (A religious lady is most likely not going out to the clubs dancing every night, so if that's who you want, don't go out to the clubs.) Mingle, talk to everyone, be male and yet sound like a sensible, reasonable person, and look for thhe signs of interest, including those above. If you see them, respond and ask her out on a date.


> arutha: Dealing with someone less experienced
So if you find yourself with someone much less experienced than you, and not very sexually aggressive (ie. passive) how can you direct them to do more things in bed

Don't discuss sex re: specific skills or acts but rather sex as in her attitude towards sex. Does she think women are not supposed to be aggressive? In other words, don't ask us - ASK HER!


> love2please: What is the best way to stimulate the anterior and posterior fornix?how deep in is it

The cervix is lightly covered bone so hitting it is very painful. Some women think sex should come with some pain, their reasons for this need not be considered here, and want a man to do that but most do not enjoy it. The lateral fornices also need not concern you.

Now with her on back before you on the bed, the G-Spot is just inside the entrance and up. Further back, just above where the cervix juts into the vagina, is the anterior fornix. The vagina does not expand above the cervix so there isn't a lot of room - you must be very careful when stimulating here. For both the G-Spot and the anterior fornix a man has to think "up" to get the correct angle.

The posterior fornix is below the cervix, way down in the back of the vagina. When caressing here, a man has to think "down" to get the correct angle.

Before going for the fornices, it is recommended that she have at least one orgasm to make sure her vagina is "primed" and ready. To help her along the way, please read and follow the steps outlined in the sticky post entitled The Program found elsewhere in this forum.


> brownhairedgirl: Problems Orgasming
So my boyfriend and I have been having sex for over a year but he can not get me to orgasm. I know what the feel like because I masterbate regularly when he is not around.

M-A-S-T-U-R-B-A-T-E with a U, please remember it.

It is NOT HIS JOB to make/give you orgasms. THAT'S YOUR JOB. He merely assists. We each are responsible for our own orgasms.

Sex begins in your brain. So what's stopping you? Examine the contents of your mind first. Check your beliefs and attitudes about sex. Double check how you feel about this fellow of yours. Next, reconsider your sexual techniques.

Are you one of those women who hold your breath or pant? Do you tense up every muscle and try to orgasm? Do you get angry or start to cry when you don't orgasm? Is your brain full of anxiety "will I orgasm this time?" during sex?

All of the above will literally STOP your orgasm before it happens.

Relax both body and mind. Breathe deeply and calmly. Think of yourself as lying on an inflatable raft out at the beach just riding the swells before they break. It is hot, the sun is shinging brightly and you're just soooo relaxed. I you can induce that state of mind and body - you will orgasm. Just relax and let the feelings roll on through you.

> JS5240: Making Her Orgasm More Frequently

Look, some women like to keep masturbating "just for them" something personal and private - and THAT'S FINE. Men would do better to stop pushing for new indulgences and instead work at getting very, very good with what they're doing now. Because most of them aren't as good as they like to think - I can tell you.


> j56h: heated oil & lotion
My wife and I enjoy oil and lotion sometimes during sex....but the problem is that it kills the fun if it is too cold before applied.
What's the easiest way to warm up oils and lotions? I was thinking of the microwave, but is that a good idea or not?

Rub your hands together rapidly.
Also see the sticky post entitled Body Worship which requires that you use only what's edible.


> Gibson52: Women, what do u want
I am seeking a new twist to get me wife in the mood.

He wants what he cannot have and she's thinking he's some kind of lower life form for wanting to express his love for her physically.

I'd say DIVORCE.

Okay - then how about separating for a time. Right now and tell her it is precisely because you see the rest of your life stretching out before you as nothing more than a wasteland of blighted hopes, desires, and dreams.

Yes, women like to make light of this - but it is very, very real to men. Not all of them, certainly, but most men do equate withholding sex with going immediately to nuclear warfare. Instead of small skirmishes, she's gone to having her finger over red button right away.

Essentially there is nothing to discuss - so cut your losses now, buddy.

She doesn't love you - she's just comfortable.


> 007: No recovery Time
Is it common for men to have no recovery time after having an orgasm? I have no recovery time after I orgasm. It could be my 2nd or 3rd orgasm and it's still the same.

That is age and fitness level dependent. Younger and/or fitter = none required; older and/or not so fit = longer.