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Marriage is a commitment. At 47 and not married, could honestly not say the words "til death do we part" and mean them. Not just religious, in fact I would say that yes I believe in heaven and in a higher power yet would not say that I am religious. Have never belonged to a church, nor have I ever, on a regular basis gone to church services. Just me, looking at myself in the mirror everyday, could not go thru with any of the 3 engagements to the wedding.
It is not that I don't believe in divorce. If two people are not able to live together and to seperate is the best course then kids, no kids whatever get a divorce. And as for alimony, child support, a settlement or whatever when one person makes more than another than yes the person making more should have some responsibility to the one that doesn't.
Why because of a divorce should children have to go from a upper class lifestyle to a lower class level because the two people that brought them into this world can't get along. I think there should be a better way, maybe instead of child support, that a home similar to the one they live in is now provided for them to live in. That there is more structure to how the money that a child is to receive is spent. Instead of a lump sum being sent to the custodial parent, so much is sent to the mortgage company, so much to the gas, electric and other utilities. Make the excuse of it not being spent on the kids excuse go away.
Marriage is a contract of commitment. It should bring trust, love and safety into a relationship. I was a lucky kid, my parents met when they were 16 and 22, married when they were 21 and 27, mom passed when she was 62 and dad, less than 2 years later, was 69. They lived every stage of their vows, yet they loved each other, and us three kids more than that. I think???
Marriage is what you make of it. It is what you believe it is or should be. And yes, there are benefits to marriage and there are benefits to not be married as well. I have no regrets in never getting married, yet if it's the right guy, the right time and the love is there I will marry one day. If I don't oh well, life has been fun, exciting and full of many adventures.
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