I can understand the not wanting to rush into marriage; you need to do what is best for your child ultimately now.
It sounds as if you have supportive parents & both are lucky on this part. Honestly, I would sit them down together in the same room and tell them as a couple. It's one matter to have a child & ask for family to help v. dumping the responsibility on them. No one minds helping out--trust me. Especially if you are trying to get a life together under such circumstances. However, I would say go out and get married. You marry the man of your baby for reasons & you need to find a job to help with costs. Be certain to continue college, you may have to take time off, but you can return--even part-time nights.
It's time to be a full adult and take on the responsibility of all this. Additionally think about it, when you are out of college, where is your health insurance coming from and your baby's? You are no longer, after the birth, a dependant on your parents. You are a emancipated minor if 17 at the time of the child's birth. After that; you are running out of time to be on your parents plan, so your child is not covered under your parents. Additionally, people do marry for right reasons...more so when a child is involved. You need to both provide security & a loving home for a baby. This is an obligation.
Let us know how you are making out...talk to mom & dad ASAP. Get a Gyn appointment now!
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Originally Posted by llblovesejw
My boyfriend was the one who actually noticed I was late in the first place. I told him it was positive about five minutes after I took it. He wants it very much, he's just worried about money since I am still in college with no job yet and he only works at Wal-Mart, though a very well-paying position for the place (well-paying for walmart doesn't particularly mean well-paying in general...) We plan on getting married, but at our own pace. It's our shared philosophy that you can be a good parent without being married.
I know my mom will understand because she got pregnant at 17 while in high school, but I know that while that helps her understand it will just make her all the more disappointed because she didn't want me to end up like that.
About taking care of a baby, I go to school during the day while he works at night, so even if we had to do it on our own, we could "manage". Fortunately, I know both of our parents would really help us out. I'm sure that's irresponsible, but I'd rather ask for help from family than put my kid at risk...
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