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I understand how you end up comparing your present partner to your ex. I also had an ex for over 10 years and she was always sexually "interested" and oftentimes was the one suggesting sex either through spoken words or by subtle touch. My wife today is far less interested in sex and has only twice in over 10 years even been the one to get things rolling. She responds to me when I'm interested, but I miss the part where you get pursued once in a while.

People were posting comments like "it's not fair to compare your present to your ex" but the fact is we all do it. And if things are lacking in that area compared to the former partner, you're going to think about it even more often. It's human and we all do it.

With that said, I think talking about it candidly with him as others suggest is probably your best bet. I hear about guys with low sex drive and it's bewildering to me. I wish I didn't have such an insatiable sex drive because at times it becomes a burden, particularly if your partner doesn't have the same drive that you do.

And every guy knows that a woman with a high sex drive is going to want more than 5 minutes. Give me a break! Perhaps there's something else bothering him that's not coming out in your post.

Bottom Line: Why put yourself through the torment? Talk to him and lay your needs on the line and ask him why he can't sustain himself for the time that you need him too. Of course do so tactfully and lovingly.

When you look at the time that the average American spends in front of a TV set each week, ask youself how it is that some people can't give their significant other the sexual attention that they seek. Of course the other option is that it may be a physical or psychological issue, meaning that maybe it's time to talk to a professional.