Quote:
Originally Posted by Lost one
Okay I got three questions I really would like to ask a gay person.
1. Do you think that gay people can turn straight or straight people can turn gay? I'm not talking Bi, I'm talking a real conversion.
2. I admit I envy gay people in the way it seems easy for them to hook up as compared to straight people. Is what I think true? Why does it seem that while heterosexuality is 'thought' to be normal, men and women aren't always getting it on and its complicated to spark attraction. Why does gay relations seem easier then the straight ones?
3. I have been asked out by a gay man! Why did he assume I was gay? My friend says I looked gay once too. What the hell does that mean?  |
1. No. You can choose not to act on your orientation and therefore not "be" gay in the sense you won't be performing same-sex acts and suppressing any urges of finding other men (or women for women) attractive in a sexual way. You might even be able to perform in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. But you'll still be gay, and that suppression will find another (and usually ugly) way out. Larry Craig or Ted Haggert anyone?
2. I don't know if that's necessarily true. You have to be careful of generalities. However, I think those that look for casual sex don't have much trouble finding it. Why? Gay or not, men think like men.
We tend to be more primal when it comes to sex and can get into the "scratch the itch" mode with another guy just for release. But when it comes to actual relationships I don't know that it's any easier. Relationships of any kind take work.
3. "Gaydar" aside, he probably picked up on something you said or did that made him think there was at least a chance you might be interested. What that was I have no idea. Ask your friend what he thought looked gay about you. In the meantime, want a date?