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As a male very privy to female issues, who considers himself a feminist, I still find facials hot as hell, but with certain caveats. There may be an element of submission, but it is not inherently disrespectful or demeaning - that depends on the attitude of giver and receiver. I have seen videos where women reluctantly put up with facials, who are clearly not enjoying themselves, and find it to be a very boner-shrinking moment. The eroticism comes from a willful submission to the MOMENT and an abandonment of inhibitions by both partners.
The sharing of sexual bodily fluids - men or women - is very personal. I think what is turning women off to the idea is the abundance of videos and pictures showing it as some kind of end in itself, an isolated moment of triumph for the male. Again, I do NOT find these things to be very erotic. To me, eroticism comes from "letting go," and from the dissolution of barriers between partners, or between male and female.
As with anything I also think you have to ask yourself whether you'd be on the receiving end. I fantasize about having a woman on top of me, her fluids dripping down on my face. I think it would be beautiful. I also fantasize about being on the giving end - I won't lie about that. It's something primal in me I guess. But if she doesn't want any part of it then there's no joy in it for me.
-DB
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