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Originally Posted by Brandye

Many women have the extremes in sensitivity between when their clitoris is safely tucked under the hood and when it is engorged and standing proud. Young men typically treat stimulation of the clitoris as they want their penis stimulated. That is usually too intense for the clitoris.

The next time they become confused is when the clitoris retracts. As a woman nears orgasm, the clitoris remains engorged but actually retracts into the body to protect itself from over stimulation. At this point, men too often dig deeper and that is enough to turn any of us off.

Guys! the clitoris is like the Penis albeit in miniature and without a Urethra, yet it must be handled much differently when pleasuring a woman. All those sensitive nerve endings are highly concentrated unlike they are in the Glans. Another analogy is comparing the sensitivity of the Glans covered and protected by a Foreskin with a circumcised penis. Unfortunately, not many adult men can make that comparison unless they were circumcised later in life and the nerves have had many months to adapt to their new surroundings becoming dulled by being in constant contact with clothing and the elements.

My point is that the tip of the clitoris that is equivalent to the Glans must be handled with the care of a light touch. This is best accomplished using a grazing action and a well lubricated finger--or moist tongue. Work together with her in order to learn how much pressure is best for any given time. This is where giving feedback is important. Now, refer to Brandye's recommendations, above, for how to proceed and in partnership.