[Brandye]

You are quite normal. So, regrettably, is your boyfriend. Many women have the extremes in sesitivity between when their clitoris is safely tucked under the hood and when it is engorged and standing proud. Young men typically treat stimulation of the clitoris as they want their penis stimulated. That is usually too intense for the clitoris.

The next time they become confused is when the clitoris retracts. As a woman nears orgasm, the clitoris remains engorged but actually retracts into the body to protect itself from over stimulation. At this point, men too often dig deeper and that is enough to turn any of us off.

Doc is right on. Gently guide him to less direct stimulation and then teach him to maintain his pressure and movement allowing you to adjust to what you need at the moment.