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Originally Posted by Gabby101
I have been with a guy for almost 4 years now and our sex life needs some help. I am partly to blame because I just don’t know how to get things started. I have been trying to initiate sex but when I try, I get told “you are not doing it right, you are only doing this to make me happy” and I end up basically feeling like crap and we end up in an argument. He just lays there, doesn’t touch me, says I should be touching me more (not something I am comfortable with) but maybe with help I would be. I don’t know where to go.
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First of all (from the info you've given me), it's *NOT* all your fault. So please don't try and blame yourself for all of his sexual issues. It's far more likely that he has some other issues going on in his life: stress, possible psychological issues, physical problems, etc. etc. So don't place all the blame on you.
How long has this been going on in your four (4) year relationship? Have these issues been going on since the beginning or is it a more recent occurance? Has he had any sort of personal issues?
All in all, it really sounds like you two need to sit down and talk about these issues. It maybe that he requires some counseling and/or talks with his doctor. There seems to be some deep-seeded issues that are going on inside of him that he may need to address.
Don't blame yourself.