Never in my life have I heard of a man who didn't find it arousing for a woman to initiate. But, by the same token, never in my life have I known a man who left it at something as cold and inconsiderate as 'you're doing it wrong', or who didn't appreciate my desire to make him happy. Bedroom feedback needs to be first and foremost constructive and sensitive. If he's not taking good emotional care of you with regard to your lovemaking, I'd say there are more important issues than your sex life that need dealt with.
Having said that-the mental block you're experiencing with regard to masturbating is very common among women. We're brought up with this taboo about it-we're taught that it's 'dirty' or that 'nice girls' don't. I used to have the same mental block. Well, I'm here to tell you it's BS. There's NOTHING wrong with touching yourself. Let me repeat that: there's NOTHING wrong with touching yourself. Or even *gasp* self-penetration. Humans are by nature curious and enjoy exploration-that area of the body is most certainly no exception. Give yourself the permission to be human and explore this aspect of yourself. And if my bf could see this post I think he'd tell you what a big step it was for me to just say that
