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Originally Posted by sera300
One essential question if a relationship does not work is; WHY & ACCEPTANCE based on your trueness/honesty. Then, what could I have reasonably done to make it better [such as effective communication or letting barriers down], what did I gain from getting to know/love this person? Did I leave it on good terms and what can I do differently to advert the discomfort? I.E.--Was I kind? Or needy? Or did I choose to date the wrong person & did not see what was evident? [lack of insight].
Been there.  |
My relationships tend not to work because I keep everyone at an arm's length. I do this because I fear that I'm manipulating them. I also fear that I'll lust after them to the point of not being sincere in my actions towards them. They kind of end in a whimper, than in a bang. I think that's because I don't get overly passionate about them, because I lock up my feelings because I've never really learned how to be passionate about something without it turning into some vile and bestial. So the girls I'm with sort of...just drift away because there's no heat or fire.