[dancingdoc2]

Good replies, these.

Another thought is to not try to have an erection. If it happens, great. She will find enjoyment knowing that she is the cause. I am suggesting that you can also have great fun having her bring about that erection with lots of necking, petting, heavy petting, and then foreplay. Just let her have her way with you and enjoy the results of her enjoyment.

While having an erection when you disrobe--and before, can be a turn on, it isn't necessary. While having an erection can before things get very far is confirmation on her part that you are reacting to your feelings for her, just like going for round to after loosing an erection after your first climax can be fun, I am suggesting that you can have this same enjoyment in the beginning.

What you will usually find is that as familiarity and comfort levels improve with each other, your erection will magically reappear. Lastly, as you age and get into your forties, a spontaneous erection will not always happen and will have to be "worked up", so this is something to get over, also. Do not get in a dither about having a spontaneous erection, concentrate on her and how to pleasure her and she will reciprocate and you will begin responding.