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Originally Posted by DVDBear
I agree with you completely, Sera. I hope it didn't sound like I was putting qualifiers on your previous answer. I was assuming that it starts with honesty . . . . it HAS to. If someone is bi and ever intends to act on their bi-sexuality after getting into a relationship with someone they need to put it out there at the beginning so the potential partner knows what they're getting into. It's completely destructive to sneak behind someone's back and indulge with the rationalization "Well, I'm not really cheating because they can't satisfy me in this way". That's total B.S. (although I've heard it tons of times). Deceit is the one thing (I believe) a relationship can never completely recover from. And if you're bi and hide it and your partner finds out you've acted on it's a double whammy . . . . . not only have you cheated on them but hidden an important part of who you are. Serious bad news.
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No, I think you and I share the same sentiments on the matter. If one figures it out, need to be upfront. Part of life is allowing the one you love grow--even if it hurts!
I agree with the "not cheating BS as well b/c it was a bi encounter...sex is sex. Whatever it is; it is...sex with another. If agreed to straight or bi--fine people just need to be honest. Gets me on the tangent of men who pawn themselves off as "unmarried" and are out while the wife is home!!!!