[sarah_rsl]

You know propably one of the most interesting things to discuss about anal sex is the male obsession with it, and the huge effort underway in parts of the media to make it appear normal - Just another sexual act. I think porn has a lot to do with this, you only have to do a quick scan of the internet to see how porn attempts to push the boundries of what's acceptable. A lot of porn emphasises how anal sex demeans women, as well as the element of control it gives the man.

So now you have a situation where anal sex is seen as perfectly normal, it appeals to men and some feel they're losing out and feel cheated when their gf doesn't drop her knickers and bend over on demand. Not only are women made to feel obligated to have it they're also expected to love it.

I've discussed this subject on other forums, and the threads become full of guys with their really erotic stories about how their girlfriends begged them to do it to them and how they just had to oblige and how brilliant it was for everybody involved. I think you should take all those with a grain of salt.

I've had anal sex three times and to be honest while uncomfortable and not something I enjoyed it wasn't an unpleasant experience and at the time I was happy to do it.

So if a woman wants to do it, she should go ahead, just out of curiosity it might be something to try once, but just don't buy into a lot of the male orientated nonsense out there.