[dancingdoc2]

Why are you being the submissive one with each of these fellas--or any? Take charge! Define the relationship as you desire it to be and let them know this is what I want from a relationship, can you do this?

I do not believe that you should be in an exclusive relationship with anybody for the time being. You are at the age when you should be dating and dating lots of men--none exclusively. By doing so you will be opening yourself up to lots of different experiences that one person cannot deliver, the likelihood of going on more dates is greater; and, you have the opportunity to educate yourself by learning what humanity has to offer. You expose yourself to many different personalities, characters, likes, dislikes, quirks, morals, values, goals, etc., so that when the time does come to settle down with Mr. Right, you will be better able to recognize the person.

Inform each and every guy (including these two) that you are choosing to date non-exclusively. Doing so also saves you the drama and trauma that often accompanies deeply emotional relationships, particularly when they break up. By dating openly you have less invested in each one while getting the social benefits and learning more about people in general.

Let family and friends know that you are available to date and have them help in your search. This is called "networking". Join organizations or groups that interest you and where fellas are likely to be, also.