[dancingdoc2]

> First there is either the licking back and forth across the clitoral hood or just under the actual clit. Which stimulates better?

From what I've read, under the clitoris is better, which is one reason you expose it by retracting the hood beforehand.

> Which stimulates better?

Try both and see how she reacts and you will have your answer. Each person is different. Each time is different.

> Second, in some areas they suggested that the finger that goes in between the vagina and anus is more of a gauge to feel the orgasmic contractions rather then it adding any stimulus to her. Is this true or does the pressure add to making this method more effective?

The pressure brings the sphincters into play as Brandye stated, above.
I've tried both applying pressure without moving, and, slight pressure while massaging the perineum. The massage seems to provide a more intense response.

> Third, should there be just a constant pace that can start slow and increase or can you mix it up slightly with different tempos in a teasing situation?

Go slow, later increase the tempo. Take your cue from her reactions and respond accordingly. There is no one right or recommended way. Again, each person is different. Each time is different.

> I'm eager to try this, but dont want to be slacking in it

And how did you get good at what you are already doing? Practice, right? Don't be so critical or hard on yourself. This is supposed to be fun. You two should work together as a team and explore and learn. Whatever you do, she will no doubt like it. If it doesn't work out quite as planned, then learn from her how you might improve your technique. Did you watch the video and listen to the narration? It doesn't sound like it.