[Brandye]

Evil,

That is an important question and I do not know the answer. Never having been married, I have not faced that issue. During the two long "straight" periods of my life, I was living with a man and did not stray. I, too, would like to see the input from married women who have a g/f with respect to allowing their man some freedom. I do know whose husbands have g/f. An acquaintance of mine is married to a rather prominent German politician. The German press reports (tongue in cheek, a bit) that the only they have in common is that they both date female movie stars.