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Originally Posted by NoLoveAtHome
I'd have to say his thinking is along the lines of something you said:
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Noloveathome: Regardless of the persons intent, thoughts, desires or wishes,
THERE IS NO REASON PLAUSABLE to place your spouse at risk because the other wants "some fun on the side"; Man or woman. Does not give the other spouse the "right" to endanger the others life. Why because they wish to remain in the closet? There must be disclosure for one to protect themselves and make an informed choice...He already has gone outside the marriage meeting people on websites giving blow jobs...that is not monomoy nor is it commitment to a marriage. It's called being a selfish SOB. His thinking is nothing along the lines of what I said...He cannot satisfy a woman or thinks he is sparing her feelings? That is his problem; perhaps he needs a divorce.
How do you explain to the wife how she got HIV or any other STD? Through a committed marriage? Monogamy? His wanting to try, come out, or experiment
NEVERS negates telling his spouse so she can decide of she wants to remain in the relationship much less even to mandate he is to use a condom with her...
Anyone who is straight, gay, or Bi; OWES their spouse the truth.
NO MATTER WHAT.
Why do I so "fire" on this? The health risks of all diseases have been placed upon me by spouses...never a date, fling, or boyfriend. Why? Because they could not be decent human beings to tell me the truth to ensure I could make my own choices regarding my health and what risks I WANTED to assume. In the end? The lack of
honesty (not the experimenting) wound up with a locked door to the house and no way to return...EVER.