> Is sex basically based on women?

Sex should be a partnership. It is not what we do to each other; rather, what we do with and for each other.

> I ask that because women "take longer" to get in that sort of orgasmic state.

While it can take a good half hour or more of fooling around and making out before getting to Foreplay, men definitely benefit from the time spent arousing a woman's ardor. We become turned on even more, also.

> And I've been with women whom I tried to relax them and get to that sexual state but they immediately wanted me in them.

There is lust and the proverbial "Quickie" and then there is the slower more deliberate expression of love that is demonstrated by taking your time. Both have their place.

> Some were just so excited they were automatically wet.

"The very idea...." Take comfort in knowing that you have this affect on someone.

> Since reading some of these fourms I find some women aren't just satisifed with the lovemaking they are receiving from there lovers. So how do propose I go about this, educate me.

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

Please look at the above Index. You will find many how-to articles as well as articles that will improve your overall knowledge and insight.

You are on the right path with wanting to be educated about all this and it is the reason these articles were written. It's not all about the size of a man's endowment; it is about becoming a knowledgeable, skilled, caring, compassionate lover. As has been said so many times: "it is not the size of the boat that is important; it is in the motion of the ocean"--and in learning to navigate well that "ocean".

Take some time to read and absorb the information in all of these articles and then when opportunity presents itself--put them into practice. Satisfying a woman has more to do with meeting her emotional needs. Pay attention to this and what she are saying. Combine being a good listener with meeting her emotional needs with being a skilled lover and you will become a great lover.

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[QUOTE=mrhollywood86;226285]I find this site very resourceful and I'm glad many of you (ladies definitely included) are so dedicated to this fourm. I gain a true amount of truth in knowledge but have a BIG question: Is sex basically based on women? I ask that because women "take longer" to get in that sort of orgasmic state. And I've been with women whom I tried to relax them and get to that sexual state but they immediately wanted me in them.

Some were just so excited they were automatically wet(if you don't mind me explicitly saying "wet" I do apologize).

Since reading some of these fourms I find some women aren't just satisifed with the lovemaking they are receiving from there lovers. So how do propose I go about this, educate me.[/QUOTE]

Immediately? Before kissing or touching? Or some great hot conversation?

Again same as above.

Communication, communication, communication. Which means speaking and listening. Same goes for us females, we need to be able to tell our lovers what we want, and to listen to them, and be open, to what they want. And guys, the same. If it's not something your woman is wanting to do move on, don't hound hound hound til we do what you want and just want you to be done already. This is between two, enjoy, and remember each time is to be enjoyed, and the next time you will be more comfortable with each other and better!

Also, if you are interested in learning more techniques, you can always google "free online _____ tutorial." Obviously, fill in the blanks with what it is you are interested in - cunnilingus, doggy style or whatever. I did this a lot when I was just learning about my body and I still do to see if there is any information that I haven't read before.

But, as Doc and smallest have said, it is really all about communication and really paying close attention to your partner and their needs. Talk about what you both like and dislike and be open - when your communication in bed is great, the sex will be great.