well i have been messing around with my girlfriend for wuite awhile now. but i have yet to give her a real orgasm. she says that theres 2 types, one by stimulating her clitoris, and she says she really wouldnt know how to get the other one. i have tried to find her g spot, but im not really sure if its it. i know its supposed to be ridged and i have found that spot, but it doesnt please her. but if i move like a half inch higher, she twitches with pleasure. could that possibly be it? cause ive heard of orgasm through g spot stimulation, but i dunno if i have ever done it. usually when i do finger her i always combine both into what im doing. ill massage her clit and slide my fingers inside her alternating. i know ive given clitoral orgasm before, shes told me and she know because when she masturbates, she just messes with her clit and nothing else. any advice on how to get the other kind of orgasm?
Wed, 07/13/2005 - 07:29
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2 types of orgasms?
thats probably her cervix
anyway, dude dont be concerned at all about "giving her" an orgasm. just relax and get in there and have a damn good time, if u are having a ball she will too. if she doesnt, let her sort it out, its probably something going on in her head not something u are/are not doing with urs.
well me having very long fingers have stumbled onto something... its like a ball shape and its pretty deep inside. with my fingers all the way in to barely feel it comepletely. my middle finger is about 4 1/2 inches long and i use it mostly. what is this thing ive found?
my girlfriend and i have been together for several years now and have experimented with many different things. it took only a few times of fingering her to find her g-spot. it varies from girl to girl exactly where it is at but when you give a girl an orgasm by her g-spot, she knows it because it is more intense than an other orgasm. a very sensitive spot that seems to work is inside the vagina. maybe 1.5-2 in. inside her vagina on forward side of it. this area is very sensitive and is believed to be a common place for a g-spot.
ah yes, i forgot about nipple stimulation. thats works...oh boy does it work!
but anyway thanks for the help and such, and well see what happens
Well said, Wally.
What you are referring to most likely would orgasms from stimulation of the clitoris and from stimulation of the G-Spot. Either one can result in a wide array of actual orgasms from earth-crashers to gentle sighs. Some women are also capable of orgasm from anal stimulation (I am but this does not imply penetration with the penis) or from nipple stimulation (I come very close).
You raising the issue of the G-Spot is frustrating. There are many sites on the net dealing specifically with the G-Spot. Medically, it cannot be shown to exist. Getting the G-Spot, if it is real, stimulated requires rather advanced sexual knowledge and real practice. My girlfriend and I worked on this for hours, over some weeks, and spent more time running to pee than anything else. It requires real understanding of one another and the time to devote to really learning one another's bodied.
I suspect that more than half the psots her regarding G-Spots are from people who have not idea what they are talking about. See the Golden Posts for some discussion.
PS: We were successful and I am glad I have a G-Spot even though, as a physician, I have no way of proving it.
First off, don't put down the orgasm(s) you are giving her. They ARE real and not to be under-valued.
I'm no expert on female orgasms, but I suspect if you asked you could come up with a lot more than two types of orgasms and a lot of different ways of achieving them.
Some reading and research won't hurt, but at the same time I'd encourage you to simply explore and enjoy together... don't get too worried about "giving" her orgasms. Enjoy each other and find them together.