well, my first time was a load of ****. it would have been nice to have been with someone i knew more about than first name, last name, i'm drunk, you're drunk, let's have unprotected sex and then wish forever and ever that we'd never ever met. but you know, such is life. would have been nice to at least have cared about him. but i don't necesarily think you need to love that person or have rose petals strewn about the bed, but yea, it would have been nice.

though i hate the words "special". as terrible as this sounds it always reminds me of this quote from gilmore girls:
"you're special, ace"
"special?...like stop eating the paste special?"

and that makes me laugh and then i feel bad. it's a vicous cycle.

I see no reason why it should be "special". The first few times are just learning exercises as far as I'm concerned...

I'll leave you with this metaphorical question to ponder: How many people that you know are still driving their first car?

The first time is only "special" in that it IS the first time. But that is about it.

Damn, my first car was a deathtrap.....I think the only thing that worked was the radio...

Everything has it's 1sts, doesn't always mean they were great. Mine sure wasn't, more like hey I've known you a couple of weeks, let's go.

Dude I wish I was still driving my first car. But of course someone had to crash into me.

Having sex for the first time isnt uber "special" I mean of course your never going to forget your first, but aside from that its not like OH MY GOD!!! its more like...that was ok. If you wanna have sex with someone special, try a best friend. I mean basically the differences between a best friend and a boy/girlfriend is...well the difference in spelling (best vs boy or girl lol)

"Special" can have several connotations...was is special the first time I drank? No...never touch Rum again! But it was a first; therefore, making it "special" as in different.

Depends on your age. When you are getting to early 20's and haven't done it, then you should hurry up and get learning. If you are 14 or so, don't leap into it to learn.

Find someone who actually cares about you and who you communicate well with, so you can tell them what isn't working and when its painful. The actual experience isn't really all that special, you will find sex gets better the more you do it.

Yea if your 14 wait, cuz if you have sex, and learn that you really like it, you could most likely wind up doing a lot of things you would regret...I mean hell I would be a total man whore if I had sex when I was younger.

There really is no cut off age. I mean its when you truly think your ready. Personally, I would wait till about 16. My reason...by that time you have sorta developed some form of maturity. Your halfway through your teenage years and yea. Its not too late to enjoy and develop skill and such, but its not so young that you havent had your testicles descend or breast develop lol

17? Get protection and then get busy.

Haha thats when I did it EEK. And I think thats like the national average. (17.6 years for men and like 17.3 years for women)

I lost it a few months ago, I am almost 19, I have trust issues though and it took me a long time to be able to trust someone enough to sleep with them.
It doesn't have to be special just loose it to someone your comfortable with otherwise it could be dangerous; mental health; sexual health etc... :rolleyes:

yeah,17yrs old is the age my old ex said we should 'do-it',however we broke up a few weeks before launch day,all because we almost 'did it' ahead of schedule,i just turned 18 during that time.But what would have been does'nt make it so.
As for the question of the thread, i have it in my head that a individuals first time should be special,despite the fact it'll probabally be very forgetable,based on what i've read anyways.But i do hope my day happens sooner rather than later:)

The first time will probably be mediocre.

However, it is a nice memory if the person is special.

The sex itself? Not really.

[QUOTE=the_moth;212807]yeah,17yrs old is the age my old ex said we should 'do-it',however we broke up a few weeks before launch day,all because we almost 'did it' ahead of schedule[/QUOTE]

Launch Day? Did you have a certain date circled on the calander for weeks or months in advance? Was it to commemorate a special occasion or was it simply for legal-age purposes?

well,my ex gf wanted to wait until she was perfectly ready and was 17,so i respected her feelings on the subject. but as the little 'launch day' quip,that was just a little joke her friends used to say to me knowing how she wanted to wait until or after her 17th birthday

i just lost my virginity last night. i'm 17 and a little ashamed, it was at a party when i'd had a little too much vodka.
the hottub was broken or something so it was really cold and to warm up a few of us decided to hop in the shower.
one girl was so drunk that the other people had to help her out, they were scared she was going to fall over and hurt herself in the tub,
that left me with some guy. i barely knew his first name.
a girl ran in sick to the toilet when we were kissing,
so a guy came over and told us to go in the other room. the guy i was with was all kinds of drunk and high. he tasted like cigarettes.
we went to the other room. all there was was a pile of blankets, which we missed...and all i can say is that i have rugburn and it hurts real bad!

at least i'm on the pill. i'm still a little sore. i feel kind of ashamed that i didn't know his last name until halfway through when i asked!
the sex was alright, it got better toward the end. turns out i'm a screamer! which sucks though, cause now everyone who was there knows.

the only redeeming thing about the night was that he was seriously hot. :)

Uhmmm....you might wish to get checked for STD's. Look at it as a lesson learned, condoms are a must, and lay of the Vodka.

i personally believe in waiting for that someone special the first time, especially more for the girls because for most of them it causes pain so it ends up being who they were with thats they remember, so a random drunk guy makes it not so memorable. For us guys though ya its not as important and it doesnt really matter. just my beliefs though

I personally don't feel it is something you "just need to get over with," but it doesn't have to be with someone "special," either. It all depends on what you want. You always remember your first time - even if you remember, I was drunk and don't really remember it. Because the first time is a special moment in your life. Either way, it should be with someone you trust and someone who has as much concern for your pleasure as their own.