Hi... *blushes and waves* ;)
Newbie here... Just made an account because I really need some help with something rather... silly. You see... I am really shy and worried about how to react after seeing my boyfriend's penis for the first time. I have masturbated him a couple of times without looking... Yes, pretty odd right? but now it's very hard for me to look at him... there... I know this is a very sill question to ask...
Thanks! :p
Alright first off. Please no 1337 typing ok?
Anyways, its not all that weird. A previous gf of mine had given me a few hand jobs without looking, but then one day she just took a look.
There really isnt anything terrifying or anything. Its simply a penis, and if you want some advice, heres the best I can give you:
Kiss his neck, nibble his ear and tell him to close his eyes. If he asks why just say its because the fact that he cant see will make everything better. That way, if you happen to make a weird face, he wont see. And then next time you go to look at it you will be prepared.
The only thing you shouldnt do is say something that will be embarassing to him. Dont say "Aww thats cute" and dont say "Oh" as if your disappointed :p. If anything say that you love the way it looks or something.
Many thanks Ducy! Great advice! :D
I forgot to add that it would be his first experience of letting a girl look at him there too. So I'd rather not peak beforehand. It would be a little unfair to cheat him out of it.... Plus I bet it would be a turn on for him too right? >.>
Would any of you like to share what your partners' first reactions/words were?
There really isnt anything special about letting a girl look at you. I mean it is a little nerve wracking cuz you dont know if you are big enough and such, so I really dont think him having his eyes closed makes much of a difference. (In my honest opinion)
Out of curiosity, how old are you two?
Whenever you approach new sexual territory with your partner and you feel embarrassed or shy, or just feel like there maybe something wrong, my advice would be to discuss these feeling with your partner, and work together to overcome such hurdles.
You don't say whether he has seen you or not but why not take the time to talk about it and explain to each other your concerns. Talking is a great thing you know and can prepare you much better for the event.
Take it a step at a time. Undress each other, have a bath or shower together so that it is not such an experience for just one of you.
The important thing is not to get hung up about it and enjoy it instead
I will try to discuss it more with him. He knows I'm shy about it. And so is he. And no he hasn't seen me either. We've only been together for 8 months and we are not ready to undress in front of each other. But we're very kinky individuals when it comes to fantasy and role play. o.O The furthest we have gone is just petting... He hasn't touched me bare yet though... Let alone see... I guess it's a little unfair that I have... so maybe that's why I'm uncomfy about seeing him bare. :o
Maybe I should do just that! And knowing him, it will actually tease him more! He'll definitely try to peak himself and it will probably be more "fun" this way for both of us. :)
We're a few months short of the legal drinking age.
OK well if its like cali then its 21.
If you were in your 16's I could understand your nervousness about your nudity, and although this may be a bit cliche, but the human body is a beautiful thing and there is nothing to be uncomfortable about.
Dont think Im trying to push you into doing thinks, but as you said earlier, you do think its unfair, and I remember the anxiety behind being naked around someone. Its pretty intimidating until you find out your pretty hot! :D
Good luck with everything
Haha thanks dude! Sir? How old are you if you don't mind me asking? And yeah, we're 20; we're pretty sheltered "kids".
Hopefully we will find ourselves and each other to be pretty hot when the time's right. :)
Well that depends how old should I be ROFl jk,
18 and legal!
Dude! So what's with the "no leet typing" rule? Mwahaha, I kid. I kid.
And this is what I love about forums in general: People of all ages come together for the great good! Right? Right? :p
Leet just gets ridiculous, lol. Sure it looks sick if you tag it or something, but when its typed it seems so weird.
Yea that definitely is the nice thing about these forums, anyone and everyone can help and talk
Definitely! That's why I used it only for that word. *blushes*
Well, I actually held one before I saw one. My reaction was, "That is supposed to fit in me!!!"
The little scientist in me took over and I wanted to observe the whole prcess from flaccid to orgasm. That was difficult because ny time I was around, he was erect. So I observed what was available and eventually discovered a few orgasms, he would actually go soft and I could observe the whole process.
Make it a learning experience. You must see it and feel it and learn a bit about how it works before you can enjoy it.
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[QUOTE=Brandye;214842]Well, I actually held one before I saw one. My reaction was, "That is supposed to fit in me!!!"
The little scientist in me took over and I wanted to observe the whole prcess from flaccid to orgasm. That was difficult because ny time I was around, he was erect. So I observed what was available and eventually discovered a few orgasms, he would actually go soft and I could observe the whole process.
Make it a learning experience. You must see it and feel it and learn a bit about how it works before you can enjoy it.[/QUOTE]
ironically enough my gf saw me for the first time this last few days ago and thats pretty much exactly what she said lol, but ya, as for you ally just talk to him about it, communication is the key in a relationship ive found especilly when it comes to sexual things, but ya brandye but what she said was that it scared her bceause she thought how the hell could that go in and not hurt.
EEK come on now you know you could get away with it :rolleyes:
You do know that there are books covering the subject of human anatomy.
There is also, so I have been told, plenty of examples of masculine sexual anatomy on the Internet. And I'm sure there are actual films of the such subjects as well.
So what rock have you been under all this time?
In my view, men are absolutely adorable and, if I could get away with it, I'd surround myself with naked men.
I was shy about my boyfriend's penis at first too. In fact, afraid is probably more accurate. First encounter was one night while we were cuddling and I had my arms wrapped around him in bed, he simply moved my hand right on his cock (he had his boxers on though so no direct contact). I was drowsy and half asleep so I wasn't even quite sure what was happening, it took me a second or two before I realized what was going on. He was a little disappointed that I wasn't interested in exploring (I was sleepy ... he keeps me up all night). But I did kind of just poke around to feel where was what. Then he took it out through the opening of his boxer and guided my hand through masturbation. Soon enough he was completely naked. My first thought was the same as Brandye's, "That is supposed to fit in me!!!" And my words at first time attempting sex was, "Um, you need penis size reduction ... we don't fit =("
[QUOTE=Ducy;214801]The only thing you shouldnt do is say something that will be embarassing to him. Dont say "Aww thats cute" and dont say "Oh" as if your disappointed :p. If anything say that you love the way it looks or something.[/QUOTE]Hear hear! In fact probably the best all-purpose thing you can say is "(pause) Wow!" (unless it's so remarkably unimpressive that he'll know you're insincere). Most (all?) guys want their thing to be admired. Most (all?) are nervous that it won't be. If you've seen porn, don't expect anything as big as those - they've been selected for that reason.
What's a p3n15? Sounds like a WWII German U-boat! Must be bad typing. I assume you meant penis.
Sounds like you are shy, but curious. Indulge your curiosity and have fun with it. Your shyness will soon disappear.
Cycle - she's being all "cutesy" - like dotting your i's with tiny hearts.
Being naked in front of another person for the first time can definitely make one nervous. And I also understand the whole being shy and afraid to look and touch. I was like that for a while. Just talk to him about your concerns and you'll feel a lot better. Explain to him that you aren't rejecting him, it's just new to you. I'm sure he'll understand, especially seeing as how he is pretty much in the same boat.
Guys generally aren't as shy in bed, even for their first time, because their hormones are really driving them towards sex, so they are generally ready and up for anything. But, sometimes afterwards, they get shy and timid. Just remember that he is probably feeling the same way you are, so don't be afraid to talk about it, before, during and especially after.
Good luck.