I have been dating this guy for about 2 months now, and the opportunity to have sex w/him keeps coming up.The problem isn't that it's my '1st time'...the problem is that it's my '1st time' with him. I am only 16 and he is 18, and I have had sex with one other guy before(more that once- about 10+ times)! My current boyfriend although he is 18 he has only been with 1 girl, and only 1 time! He has condoms and all, but I am worried since he'd only had sex once before that he won't put it on right. I also worry that having sex with him might change our whole relationship around. The way I look at it is that sex can either make or break a relationship. I know that he won't break up with me if I don't have sex with him/ break up with me cuz that all he wants, but I am scared that it might made him think differently about me. Should i weight until i know how long we should be together or go ahead? Plus how can i make sure he has a condom on right?
Sun, 11/20/2005 - 23:23
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1st time with a new boyfriend!
hey well im a little unsure its just im a little scared.....thanks fro the advice...!
nope just when u added "
" it was portrayed to me that u seemed unsure.....but have fun with that.
umm..well see i like him and he likes me but we dont wanna date and then ruin a friendship...i mean is there something wrong with having sex with a real close guy friend?!
why dont u wait for someone who you really care about then? like your boyfriend?? why the hurry?
Im a little nervous about having sex....me and my guy friend r planning on doing it new years...hes kind of expeirenced hes done it like 10 times before so hopefully he will take it slow...
he knows im a virgin so hopefully he wil understand!!
*hes not my BF*
Thanks guys
I am glad that you have condoms available. There is much more to protection than getting the condom on right. That is a good start. You should also be using some form of spermicide (goam, jelly, film, suppository). Look around the site and find some ideas for your own education.
Remember that there is no absolute protection. Are you sure you are ready to start sweating out your period every month? It can be a drag on all aspects of your life. Look in Chick Chat for some issues around being ready.
if u are worried about the condom, then put it on for him. if u dont know how and he doesnt either, u shouldnt be having sex period. secondly, if u like him and u feel like it is the time in ur relationship to move to the next step then do it, but if u have doubts about him staying with you based on your decision whether or not to have sex with him i think u are wasting ur time on him. u guys need to talk about it and come to an agreement on whether ur both ready or if u should wait, that should determine if u do it or not.