Let me make one thing crystal clear to you -
IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER
You are responsible for your own orgasm. You are responsible for knowing how to put a condom on. And buddy, from all I have heard and seen - penises do whatever the hell they want - so welcome to the club.
Now then - your technique sucks. Please do some reading around as thrusting hard and long for hours on end is *yawn* fucking boring as all hell tyvm. You save penetration to last - until you both are just SCREAMINGLY about ready to orgasm. She orgasms first and then you. Got that?
What a novel idea, you mean she really can or should? :rolleyes:
> I was really hard, until I put the condom on....after about 2 minutes of trying to put it on correctly,
Was this the first time wearing one? I agree, you should have practiced, and, also done what most men do not do--read the instructions. My question is what is so difficult about rolling one on? "Elementary my dear Watson." One important consideration is to make sure you have a condom of the correct size. Most are available in S/M/L. If you get one without a reservoir, pinch off an inch of the tip before rolling it on.
I recommend you take one and roll it on and practice a few times. (For women, I recommend taking an English cucumber or other vegetable of appropriate size and learn.
> I started getting soft, even with my naked parter in front of me!...I was getting frustrated trying to get it 100% hard again,
Making love is a partnership, it is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other. Explore and learn together. That said, why not let her roll the condom on and in the process (slow or fast) continue to caress your penis? Doing this should stave off any tendency to lose hardness. (It's fun too! :D )
> I performed for atleast 1 hour...the thing is, I DIDN'T COME! I don't know why I didn't come or have an orgasm, but I was thrusting in her hard and fast.
When we first learn to masturbate we quickly develop a hand action that is unique and specific to us even though it is basically the same as what every other guy does. We also use quite a bit of pressure unless using a lubricant. This pressure is different than what we are accustomed to when we enter a vagina and begin stroking and requires some retraining of the brain.
In addition, many boys nowadays have the misguided misconception that the way to a climax is from lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking. WRONG! This is what all the fooling around and making out is for before ever getting to Foreplay and then intercourse.
> W** happened? Was it because she was super tight? I don't have premature ejaculation because I lasted 1 hour without cumming on my first time!
Two possible explanations:
a) you were at or very near the trigger point of an orgasm and-
b) the process of entering created sufficient friction to take you
beyond the point of no control
It is a good thing that you enjoy long sessions; however, if by lasting 1 hour you mean that you were stroking away for that long, this is just so not recommended. Most women become sore, bored, and tired after about ten minutes of action. If the two of you desire to prolong intercourse, take some periodic breaks and return to Foreplay activities and/or making out then continuing with intercourse.
> Maybe it was the absence of foreplay? We kissed maybe once before we started to have sex..it was literally 5 minutes from the time we walked in the house to the time we were having sex....So any ideas? Help me!
Help is on the way. The two of you need additional sex ed! While a proverbial "Quickie" is OK, these generally require some individual mental preparation on the part of the woman beforehand. Guys can be ready to climax in a matter of minutes with only a thought of prep., this is not the case for most women most of the time. The fairer gender needs a good half hour or more of progressive cuddling, kissing, and caressing in order to become aroused and excited. Men benefit from this time, also. So, while a Quickie is OK, please do not make this your standard operating procedure.
In the future, devote plenty of time to Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting, all before getting to Foreplay. When ready for intercourse, she should invite you inside, although, not before you are at the brink of a climax, yet not so close that you cannot move into position and go inside without ejaculating.
As for help, please familiarize yourself with the Index, found at the top of the main screen. It has links to helpful informative, insightful as well as how-to articles on all aspects of romance, fooling around and making out, foreplay, and intercourse. The two of you should read each article and then discuss the information. Knowledge is empowering!
If you have additional questions or concerns after doing the homework, above, please do not hesitate to ask. We are here to help make life and lovin' easier. Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.
Let me make one thing crystal clear to you -
IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HER
You are responsible for your own orgasm. You are responsible for knowing how to put a condom on. And buddy, from all I have heard and seen - penises do whatever the hell they want - so welcome to the club.
Now then - your technique sucks. Please do some reading around as thrusting hard and long for hours on end is *yawn* fucking boring as all hell tyvm. You save penetration to last - until you both are just SCREAMINGLY about ready to orgasm. She orgasms first and then you. Got that?
And learn how to put a condom on one-haded where you cannot see it. Or, better, have her put it on you.
> Or, better, have her put it on you.
What a novel idea, you mean she really can or should? :rolleyes:
> I was really hard, until I put the condom on....after about 2 minutes of trying to put it on correctly,
Was this the first time wearing one? I agree, you should have practiced, and, also done what most men do not do--read the instructions. My question is what is so difficult about rolling one on? "Elementary my dear Watson." One important consideration is to make sure you have a condom of the correct size. Most are available in S/M/L. If you get one without a reservoir, pinch off an inch of the tip before rolling it on.
I recommend you take one and roll it on and practice a few times. (For women, I recommend taking an English cucumber or other vegetable of appropriate size and learn.
> I started getting soft, even with my naked parter in front of me!...I was getting frustrated trying to get it 100% hard again,
Making love is a partnership, it is not what we do to each other; it is what we do with and for each other. Explore and learn together. That said, why not let her roll the condom on and in the process (slow or fast) continue to caress your penis? Doing this should stave off any tendency to lose hardness. (It's fun too! :D )
> I performed for atleast 1 hour...the thing is, I DIDN'T COME! I don't know why I didn't come or have an orgasm, but I was thrusting in her hard and fast.
When we first learn to masturbate we quickly develop a hand action that is unique and specific to us even though it is basically the same as what every other guy does. We also use quite a bit of pressure unless using a lubricant. This pressure is different than what we are accustomed to when we enter a vagina and begin stroking and requires some retraining of the brain.
In addition, many boys nowadays have the misguided misconception that the way to a climax is from lots and Lots and LOTS and LOTS of stroking. WRONG! This is what all the fooling around and making out is for before ever getting to Foreplay and then intercourse.
> W** happened? Was it because she was super tight? I don't have premature ejaculation because I lasted 1 hour without cumming on my first time!
Two possible explanations:
a) you were at or very near the trigger point of an orgasm and-
b) the process of entering created sufficient friction to take you
beyond the point of no control
It is a good thing that you enjoy long sessions; however, if by lasting 1 hour you mean that you were stroking away for that long, this is just so not recommended. Most women become sore, bored, and tired after about ten minutes of action. If the two of you desire to prolong intercourse, take some periodic breaks and return to Foreplay activities and/or making out then continuing with intercourse.
> Maybe it was the absence of foreplay? We kissed maybe once before we started to have sex..it was literally 5 minutes from the time we walked in the house to the time we were having sex....So any ideas? Help me!
Help is on the way. The two of you need additional sex ed! While a proverbial "Quickie" is OK, these generally require some individual mental preparation on the part of the woman beforehand. Guys can be ready to climax in a matter of minutes with only a thought of prep., this is not the case for most women most of the time. The fairer gender needs a good half hour or more of progressive cuddling, kissing, and caressing in order to become aroused and excited. Men benefit from this time, also. So, while a Quickie is OK, please do not make this your standard operating procedure.
In the future, devote plenty of time to Necking, Petting, and, Heavy Petting, all before getting to Foreplay. When ready for intercourse, she should invite you inside, although, not before you are at the brink of a climax, yet not so close that you cannot move into position and go inside without ejaculating.
As for help, please familiarize yourself with the Index, found at the top of the main screen. It has links to helpful informative, insightful as well as how-to articles on all aspects of romance, fooling around and making out, foreplay, and intercourse. The two of you should read each article and then discuss the information. Knowledge is empowering!
If you have additional questions or concerns after doing the homework, above, please do not hesitate to ask. We are here to help make life and lovin' easier. Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.