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> I am scared to death. I have a great boyfriend of 4months now. He's very caring. He's letting me go at my own pace.

This is an excellent approach. My recommendation is to continue on making progress in tiny increments. Comfort and confidence are acquired through familiarity as well as trust. When you are totally comfortable with a certain level of intimacy, then when you are ready, you can up the ante' a little more and continue doing so over whatever time frame works for you.

> Everytime he tries to touch me, I begin to panic and freak out.

Touch you where and how?
Please reread the above.

Before you ever (partially) undress, and before he begins to touch your genital area, you should be very aroused. This is accomplished by spending a lot of time to kissing and fondling and caressing and just making out. Devote no less than half an hour to necking and petting (more within reason if time permits) in order to get both of you very aroused. Do not rush to the finish line. There has been much mention of late about foreplay yet as important as this is, these activities come later, not sooner.

These physical activities have some benefits as well as being critically important for the sake of preparation.

* gets your body physically prepared
* gets you in the mood, emotionally
* helps temper anxiety
* helps sidetrack inhibitions

> I know it will feel good.

Consider letting him explore your breasts and later your genitals though your clothing before ever partially undressing. When you do begin to disrobe, take it in stages. As examples, let him begin caressing your breasts in passing while fully dressed. As you become more aroused, one or the other of you can unfasten your top or let him slip a hand from the bottom up or the top down if it is a pullover in order to fondle one or both through your bra--and perhaps slip a finger inside. Later, when comfortable with this level of intimacy, you can unfasten the bra and let it dangle. After dangling for as long as you need it to--remove it.

This same strategy works below the belt, also. Let him approach your genital area with passing caresses from the abdomen down to the pubic mound or from a thigh inward. He should not dally, just give fleeting grazes as his fingers move on to other areas. At some point (read: days or minutes into an event) he will want to linger around that area and caress it more. Let him when you are ready. If you are wearing a skirt or shorts that permit fingers to trace up a leg, then let these caresses become ever bolder over time. You most certainly do not have to part your legs or allow him to until you are comfortable with the idea and are physically and emotionally prepared by all that has come before.

When you are ready, let him explore your pubic area and later the crotch, through your panties. He won't feel much and you may or may not, either; yet what this is doing is building confidence, comfort, excitement, anticipation, and arousal--and in stages.

Communication is important. Talk to him about your apprehension and when you are able to put what makes you feel uneasy into words, tell him.

> Im such a wierdo about physical contact.

What part of physical contact bothers you?
Please keep in mind that making out used to and still should begin like it did in days past when couples made out on the swing on the front porch, a haystack, or a car--in small albeit progressive steps.

NECKING--typically begins with kisses and caresses above the shoulders.
* stroking hair
* stroking the nape of the neck
* caressing cheeks, lips, ears
* Kissing

PETTING--moves these caresses to the upper body as well as the legs and feet, excluding the breasts and genitals.

HEAVY PETTING--incorporates the breasts and later the genitals in ever increasing levels of intimacy

FOREPLAY--is the erotic stimulation of the entire body and specifically the erogenous zones immediately preceeding a climax either by hand and/or oral stimulation or more to the point--intercourse.

The steps should be all inclusive, meaning we move from A to B to C, revisit A, add D, revisit A & B, and so on and on. This also holds for each of the progressive stages. Foreplay should very much include all the kissing and caressing that has gone on before.

I hope this is of help. Please feel free to continue the discussion should you have additional questions, comments, or concerns.