well, today, my girlfriend and i had sex for the first time...or at least tried to...i couldnt fully get it up, which i'm pretty sure was due to the condoms...and everytime i tried sexual intercourse, my penis kept sliding out. She does kind of have a small vagina, i have about a 6 - 7 inch with a pretty wide girth. I don't know what to do, we tried for a couple hours to get it in and stay in, and only had about a minute of REAL sex. It just kept comming out. What should I do? We want to try it again, but I don't want it to end up like today. It was way tougher than I thought it would be....any advice help would be greatly appreciated...thank you
Sun, 05/13/2007 - 17:50
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1st sex experience w/ problems
If anything its nerves rather than "the condom"
granted it is a new sensation.
Practice masturbating w/ a condom on to get accustomed to the feeling.
What positions were you trying?? Remember you don't have to pull all the way out and go back in...just a few inches back and forth.
If it's not hard enough...it won't stay in either.
On the homepage, go to New to Sex and First Time for Guys. There is some great information there.
I wouldn't worry if you couldn't get it up, just relax, it's not uncommon. The more you stress about it, the more difficult it will become.
As far as sliding out, try a different position. It just takes some getting used to and finding the right angle. It might help if she angled her hips up towards you if you tried the missionary position.
yeah, we did try missionary position and it was the one that worked for a little bit...she also was on top at one point, which worked for a little bit too...I checked the beginning sex thing for guys article/section, it seemed more mental than physical advice...So, not being fully hard would do make it not stay in?...
Well, you are not getting it up. That is a mental problem. Read the stuff again.
Its not that I DON'T want to get it up, it's not that I'm NOT in the mood or not wanting to have sex or anything, I really don't know what it could be....but thank you
"not in the mood." "not wanting." Those, my firend, are mental and not physical conditions.
so we tried it again last night, and again it kept sliding out...the condom may be too small it seems to cut off some circulation to my penis...which may prevent me from getting a full hard on? I love this girl more than anything and i want this to work...I bought some bigger condoms...would those help maybe?
Yeah it should help
the condom should be snug but not extremely tight.
Buy a few different brands/sizes...and while at home alone... masturbate w/ them on...to see how they feel.
yes, everything's better...i got bigger ones, tried them out, and her and i had sex today and it worked out great (she had to leave early, so we didn't get to for too long)! thanks to everyone who helped me and gave me advice...peace