[EvilEvilKitten]

Before you go making up your mind, Dawn, you might want to consult someone from the 'other side'.

Several points:
1. you can do non-bi threesomes - witness MFMs the vast majority of which are non-bi.
2. you BOTH must go hunting together. No picking up a woman on your own.
3. Leave your current friends out of it. Part of being discreet.
4. Find you local swing group and consult them before going anywhere else.

I personally enjoy threesomes! Both FMF and MFM. Much to their delight, I pass my men around like a bag of potato chips - after they've been skill tested, of course - I cannot have my rep ruined by passing around an unskilled lover. Contrary to popular belief - it is the man who has to be clever to satisfy two women, or more, simultaneously - it can be done however!

Now then, you can change the atmosphere by making small changes in the planned scenario. He can be tied down onto the bed and the two women can gang up on him, or, if bi, they can have fun and let him watch getting him all excited but unable to do anything about it. You can have him pleasure you both simultaneously. Other interesting things are deciding what his role is to be: aggressive/active or passive; blind-folded or not. Asking a man to pleasure you both simultaneously and actively while blindfolded calls for MAJOR skills on his part.

The one thing both of you MUST do - is to separate the emotional bond (love) from the physical acts (sex). Yes, you both have to like and be aroused by your potential "third", as she/he is called, but you do NOT and indeed must not LOVE them. Do you see?

Then there's the added joy of once he gets his FMF, you can get your MFM - and WOW THAT IS GREAT!!!