[Brandye]

I share nympho's hesitancy with respect to threesomes. There are many, many threads on those. Some here feel different. I am actively bi-sexual but never married. In younger years, I seemed to bounce back and forth between lesbian and straight and eventually accepted bi- with a female partner who is also bi.

I cannot imagine a threesome mixing genders not leading to an unhappy end. None of the men in my life have ever been aware I went the other way; all of the women have been aware of this.

I have both friends and patients who are in long term marriages who frequently "have tea" with a woman friend. Does not raise a bit of question.