[dancingdoc2]

> ok i am new to sex but not my boyfriend
mainly for now i want sex everyday

This is understandable. Understand, also, that as relationships evolve, the frequency generally declines. Differences in libido are common and often the norm. The solution is to negotiate a frequency the two of you can be happy with.

> i just like the feeling of him being in me with an orgazim or not
he said that he cant have sex everyday cause that is pyshically exhausts him since he works alot?!

Here are a couple of suggestions:
1. Plan your lovemaking sessions for a time when he is relaxed and refreshed, maybe arising early before work as one idea.
2. Snuggle and cuddle after dinner, nothing beyond this.
3. As above. He can help satisfy your needs without you doing much reciprocation

> now the problem is that we have sex so far i havent had an orgazim
i am under alot of stress and i still need time to fully sexually open up
anyway ( i mean i cant even for a month have an orgasim even masturbating - what is common when i am understress or alot of pressure in life)

So you have learned how to have and enjoy orgasms, it's just that life's struggles are preventing them from happening. Is this correct? Try #1.

It is important to understand that we do not give orgasms away. Each person is responsible for his/her own. All any of us can hope to accomplish is to help our partner achieve theirs. Has your boyfriend ever been able to help you climax? If not, and you are otherwise prepared and capable, I recommend that you show him how to stimulate you by taking his hand in yours and guiding his fingers over a few sessions until he learns to mimic your moves, rhythms, and pressures. Key to this is to provide verbal or non-verbal feedback on how you are responding to his caresses and for what you may need next.

Orgasms for women are problematic at best and must be worked up. It is important that you be receptive mentally and physically. Your hour long sessions are great because it can take a good 20 minutes to arouse a woman sufficiently to begin working on triggering an orgasm.

> we have had sex one time that night and it lasts about hmm 45-60 mins
around that time and then after about 30 mins i want more
now i havent had an orgasmed but he has is this why i want more?

More? Do you mean extending your love making to longer than an hour or an hour and a half? I'm not sure what you mean.

> or is the problem that we have totally different sex drives
i am just wondering an am interested in different opinons

Yes, different drives, which is normal
Stress
Fatigue, both normal

Discuss ways to get what you both want. Learn how often he would like to have intercourse or at least a hand job were it not for being tired.

What I find curious is his response that having sex exhausts him. Guys usually feel tired and physically spent after climaxing one or more times. This usually goes away after awhile, and is no problem if going to sleep at night. His statement causes me to wonder if there is a hidden meaning to it.