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All I wish that someone had told me before my first time was that it's not anything like you see in the movies, and not to expect anything magical to happen. I was sober and my BF was sober, I had no pain - but I wouldn't say I exactly had pleasure either. A moment to forget is right. But I had built up a lot of hype around it thinking it was going to this magnificent moment that changed the rest of my life. Besides being able to say from that point on that I had had a penis in my vagina, nothing was different. Sex didn't even start to feel good until I was much older and more aware of my body and what turns me on and gets me off. Personally - I think the first time you see and touch a penis, that is a more momentous moment than having sex for the first time. Many people "fool around" with hands, mouth, whatever before having intercourse, yet still consider themselves a virgin. By my own definition (I realize this is not shared by everyone), I consider myself having lost my virginity the first time I fooled around with a guy. There are major benefits, however, to deciding not to have intercourse and to keeping it at "fooling around". Virtually no fear of pregnancy is a major one (although there are freak accidents, if you keep the penis away from the vagina completely your chances are greatly reduced!) Giving yourself more time to get comfortable and learn how to ask for what you want in bed is another. All in all, I think that a lot of women might feel the same way I do when I say - I wish I had waited until I was older to lose my virginity.
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