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Old 10-18-2007, 10:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Hommerun View Post
Hi Sera. I spent the last 3 years trying on single life again (after the end of a 10 year relationship). I quickly determined that I wasn't satisfied with quick hookups via the internet. But I did meet a few guys that became FWB's (or FB's to some) in the process. Worked for all parties involved. However, when one of us started dating...the sex stopped. Its hard for me at this age and stage to have a sexual relationship a guy ongoing and not develop some degree of emotional involvement - i.e. becoming friends And once that happens, it makes it more difficult to sustain the sex part of the relationship. I think I'm tapped into my new guy pretty heavily emotionally so an FWB feels to me, like it might undermine my ability to bond with him. Just my ramblings...and thanks for bringing the idea to the table. It is another good subject for thought.
I found you can develop an emotional attachment to one and have a FWB with another...therefore the need for sex is met w/the FWB & you stilll have a friend. By doing this, your need for sex is not the cause of the emotional attachment to the one you are seeking a relationship with--this allows for a more objective analysis of the person overall rather then a hormone rampage driven beginning. Good luck!
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