[e_room_matt]

It's been said before, but every woman is different. As a general rule the my advice if things aren't going well is....

1. SLOW DOWN! If you are overpowing before she is ready, she will get numb and you'll be down there for a week. Women have to build to orgasm so slow down and get comefortable.

2. TEASE, TEASE TEASE! Women feel a loss of control when you are down there and some even feel distant. Teasing does a ton to build excitement (see above) and keeps things light. There is also a level of communication to teasing that women enjoy. It reminds them that they aren't all alone in the room and makes it easier to give up control because it is obvious you have it.

3. Spread lips to expose the clitoris fully. The more surface area you have to work with, the more she will feel.

4. Add action, particularly fingers on the G-spot as you go. Build your performance. Don't just go as hard as you can just because you feel like she needs to kick it into gear. Keep something in reserve for when she actually says "I'm gonna cum." Being able to start rubbing the g-spot rapidily once she reaches that moment can often trigger multiple orgasms.

5. SLOW DOWN!!! Enjoy your woman. Don't feel pressure to bring her to orgasm quickly and remind her not to feel pressured either (that makes it worse). Relax and even take a break if necessary. Proceed as if you are enjoying your favorite meal on a lazy day instead of wolfing down a burger when you are starving to death.