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Massie:

After some thought since I read your other posts (created a monster here) I am going to piggyback those topics here.

Dating a woman: Find one you have an interest in & she also has an interest in you, chat & get her phone number, call within 24 hours and set a date to go out. If you are shy, ask her out to "X" movie, or which ever she would like. If you feel more comfortable ask her for a casual dinner out at "X" restaurant.

Dating a man: I would find an upscale club/bar/lounge and go (if you have a male friend who is willing take him). If not, find a safe one with a good rep. Preferably not super local go in and order a drink. You are close to 21...doubt you will be "proofed". ONE only. Sip it or nurse it. Let other's come to you...they will! Be careful & make a rule chat only and get phone numbers, NO SEX THAT NIGHT. Follow up and chat with him. Talk to many make friends. I have been in gay bars and I have no problem going in to meet friends. Often they are not there yet, so I do get hit on. I am polite & say thank you but I am meeting my friend here. If they persist I just say "I am flattered but I am here to meet my friends & I am straight".

Thinking more about what DVD said. I do know some male/female friends who there is NO question about them being gay...always have been and they are not getting near the other sex's anatomy....insert proper word! In fact I have one patient in particular, she is female, a boxer by profession, and damned tough. She needs clearance prior to a match to ensure she is not preg. And she refuses to ever go to a gyn doc. I have convinced her to let me do the pelvic and pap. To her...nothing goes in there! She sees this as so unnatural. But for her health she has agreed to allow me to do the annual w/an agreement if there is any abnormality she will go to the gyn. When she has the exam she must have her g/f in the room. Fine w/me as long as she has the pap & manual exam.

Additionally you see DVD's thoughts...he is curious. Maybe he will get his dream! My ex hubby was equally attracted sexually by both sex's. His emotional attachment was more towards his bf not his wife (me). We stay in touch, he did well for a while lived a straight gay life, recently took off with a new lady. I spoke with him about 2 weeks ago...yes, we are still friends BUT that took time. It's 20+ years later.

I hope this helps you. Hopefully others add experiences! Remember I am straight so I cannot tell you all the ins and outs & how to be proper...BUT ALWAYS BE SAFE--THERE ARE NASTY PEOPLE (GAY HATERS) OUT THERE AND AWFUL DISEASES. Condoms and honesty are a must. Watch out for the players too!

Ps. You asked about flirting and have good answers from both men & women...just don't go up and kiss anyone as evil does...your not there yet! Music? It's nice. Find out what your dates interest is!