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Old 09-23-2007, 03:52 PM
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Originally Posted by masse7326 View Post
I am a male. Right now, I identify with being bisexual but leaning gay. If someone asks me in public what I am, I say "not straight" because I don't know but I do know that I'm not straight.

I have kissed a girl before, but didn't french. I did get turned on by it and I did get an instant hard-on when I held her hand. However, I don't know if it was the part of me that saids "girl are cute" or if it was the horny part of me just wanting to let loose?
You confuse me since you said you do fisting, and love the taste of cum during a BJ; therefore, I assume you have engaged in foreplay with men & not w/women. You stated if you marry there will never be sex w/her and you are turned off bu the thought of cunningulus and intercourse (vaginal).

You may find you are becoming aroused by a human touch and can see a female as attractive. My very gay male friends can see a woman as cute or attractive but the question is are you sexually (wanting to have sex) w/a woman? Same question for a man...do you wish to have sex w/a man & do you find a man physically attractive? This is where I believe bisexuality comes in. You can have a preference of which you enjoy, bisexual. But those who are not wanting to have sex with a member of the opposite sex? I tend to say gay.

I ended up married to a bi male unknown prior to marriage & sex was fantastic. He did not tell me for the reasons you state....family and society pressure. Let me tell you, that hurt more then anything someone can imagine. It was devastating in ways many [people] cannot think of.

Do yourself a favor--Experiment. Get out there and try, start slow & try different things and be HONEST! Use CONDOMS. The rest will follow, get off the cyber world and begin living your life, and the answers will follow...get back to college too. Stop tossing around terms since you are labeling yourself. If anything you are gay or bi-curious...(I think). I am straight but helped my now ex husband figuring out himself & many friends.
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