[dancingdoc2]

> Turning Gay in Middle of Your Life... What are your thoughts about that? Well, let me start from the beginning and seperate my years using the sports I did.

This happens to a lot of people; although, at 20 I don't think you are in the middle of your life unless you only plan on living to 40. The fact is that becoming Gay, or being Bi- is a change that people transition into, and at a younger age would probably never consider this as a gender identity, lifestyle, or, interest.

> When I used to figure skate (6-14), I would consider myself straight.
> I did Tae Kwon Do (15-16/17) and started having gay thoughts.
> (17-present), I went to college and my life took a wild loop. I joined the local GBLTQ group and Jewish group but became more active and interested in the GBLTQ group.

So far this could be a case for learning your true identity, curiosity and experimentation, or, a true shift. For me it was curiosity and the fact that as a horny college kid there was not other outlet and a cooperative roommate was handy.

> Basically, I'd skip classes and just chat online with others. That's why I'm back home

Are you saying that you quit school? If so, why? If so, this is not unlike the question often asked by young teens wanting to know if it is bad to masturbate a lot. The answer is "NO" unless the activity interferes with obligations, school, chores, etc. If you have left school to devote your time to chatting on line, I believe you need a new perspective on your life, future (be it the operator of a pool hall or something entirely different). You need to finish your education so you have a life, understanding that you at age twenty are at your sexual peak and all these hormones are influencing your rational behavior.

> I do sometimes have the thought of wedding a female just because society tells us heterosexuality is right but if I do, there'd only be kissing involved and nothing more.

Good luck on finding someone who will marry you just for kisses. It does not take too much searching of this site to find women complaining about their man's lack of interest when it comes to making love. Making love is the outward expression of a couple's love. So far, you have what appears to be an overly simplistic view of sex, love, and committment.

I think you should play it cool for a year or more taking this time to learn more about yourself. If you want to date guys, do so, if you want to date women, do so, but do not settle into a life with anyone, male or female, just because of appearances or what society expects. If you do, you will be cheating them as well as yourself, because you will not be in the relationship just like the wife or husband who goes out and cheats with someone.